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 Found this prayer very profound.

 Lord Jesus, how you have loved us! How you have given yourself for us, your bride, your church. Lord, I would ask today that you call my husband to the same kind of love and self-sacrifice. I didn't deserve it from you, and I don't deserve it from him, but I so need it. Father, equip him, strengthen him, encourage him to love his bride as you have loved yours.

I don't know how to put this. But as long as we wait for something/someone to change, it somehow doesn't happen. But when we start changing things in ourself (or ask God to help us transform) , things started to change in my family.

For example, I never knew I was capable of being so angry. I thought my husband was only short tempered. Fact was, so was I. And God changed me first.  And I had built up so much of bitterness over the days, that it was so hard to love my guy. So I started asking God to remove the bitterness and fill me with his love so that I can fall in love with my husband. Seriously. I did pray that. And I did. And believe it or not, my husband, the same guy who always kept repeating that our marriage was a mistake and that he was cheated, says in family prayer everyday, ' I thank you God for the wife and kids you gave me' . So the change has been mutual in our case.

 I also believe that if we are diligent in our BP, our quiet time and prayer life, he shows where we need to improve. Where we have to repent. I can honestly say that many years I have gone by thinking I was all good, so no need of repenting..🙈🤦🏻‍♀

 Maybe it's not relevant to the prayer,but thought of sharing. 🙄

I wanted to add to what's you had said...even I thought many times I was all fine and justifying my behaviour with God, until when I started to meditate on Galatians 5:22-33 while praying for our marriage; the Lord showed me areas in my life which I needed the change. At the same time I pray for the character of the husband that's mentioned in the passage. The depth in the passage is so great. It's so beautiful and on realising where we stand puts us to shame. I am still not the character though that God desires of me, but this really shows me whom I need to be.

 Praise God. His word is like a mirror. That reflects  and cuts through.😬