Pleasing husband - a trap

Just wanted to share something that happened in my life.
Note: Each one is different and situation is also different. We need wisdom to discern it.

When I did things to my husband, my hub was always in complaint mode. Nothing made him happy. I took it on myself to keep him happy. Doing things that would please him. What finally happened was it drove me crazy. He was always sad. Much later came to know that he was stuck in self pity.  But reflected as nothing was any good for him. It was a vicious circle. I was deep stuck in despair and depression. I felt far away from the lord, coz I was trying to do all on my own and I was failing.
Praise God, God rescued me out of that pit and after I was out, lot of prayer lot of months passed to where we can say, we are out of that circle.

We now can read our minds. God has changed both of us so much.we are not trying to please each other or keep other happy, but as we please God and come closer to Him, He draws us close to Himself and to each other husband and wife. The triangle.