on divorce

[10/25/2019, 8:20 PM] Ka: In my friends list whom I move really close with, I know 4 people who are divorcees,  like they ended their marriage within an year and the saddest part is all the 4 are Christians. Any thoughts on this ? I am truly disturbed .

[10/25/2019, 8:34 PM] Ja: It is a disturbing fact that the tolerance level is going down. World might say lot of reasons, but we know, it is God who binds the couple.

[10/25/2019, 8:34 PM] Ja: Our responsibility is to seriously pray for them so God can bring a breakthrough in their lives

[10/25/2019, 8:35 PM] Ja: Satan does not like happy families

[10/25/2019, 8:35 PM] Ja: Do you think they would like to give one more try? You can route to marriage enrichment courses which last for few weeks.

[10/25/2019, 8:36 PM] Ja: I am sure they will be touched many times before the course gets over

[10/25/2019, 8:38 PM] Ha: This shows how important pre marital counselling is..... People have a rosy and jaded impression of marriage and are not able to handle reality. Christian principles on how to stay in a marriage or even finding a life partner are not really preached about around here because it might upset traditionalism.

[10/25/2019, 8:39 PM] Ja: Our elders still ask why enrichment sessions are there. They feel people are trying to make money out of the families that go smooth

[10/25/2019, 8:39 PM] Ja: But the thing is, they help us to move from one stage to other

[10/25/2019, 8:41 PM] Ha: It’s sad because some girls get married for freedom and some guys get married for status and respect. 

Where is GOD in all this?

[10/25/2019, 8:44 PM] Ju: I saw somewhere.. marriage is like a triangle.. the top point of the triangle is GOD.. the other two are husband and wife.. only when the couple seek the LORD, they will stay united.. otherwise, they get separated from each other.. 

*pray together to stay together*.. 

Bro.Mohan shared in one of the messages that the Christian marriages are the targets by Satan these days.. so we desperately need GOD’s guidance and counsel.. 

What I personally believe is, except for sexual immorality, we shouldn’t seek divorce.. as per Bible.. so any problem between husband and wife other than sexual immorality can be sorted out..

[10/25/2019, 9:03 PM] Ha: Even for sexual immorality the Bible says if u are hardened of heart then get a divorce (in the old test) after the Israelites  kept pushing and pressing for legal separation.

God equates the relationship between the church and HIM as one between a bride and the bride groom. On a consistent basis HE forgives us and accepts us. The book of Hosea gives an in-depth account of how GOD wants to forgive and accept HIS people. 

When GOD can assure me that HE will come for me and accept me no matter what..... Shouldn’t that be the standard I set for myself too. And not  just in marriage..... 

DISCAIMER: I understand this is a sensitive topic and can have many many sides. Theologically mappings it..... This is my 2bit.

[10/25/2019, 9:41 PM] Ju: Yeah.. you’re right 👍🏽

but despite being strong believers, I hardly see forgiveness and love within families.. (in several not all).. though they know the characteristics of GOD and strong knowledge of Bible including strong relationship with GOD.. 

I shared it because I know a girl, who is a believer, had issues with her husband because of her in-laws.. she wanted to get out of the marriage.. then she got to speak to an elder woman who said to her about divorce except for sexual immorality.. so she continued in prayer for her marriage and quit the thought of seeking divorce.. the LORD mended the broken relationship.. now she is happily living with her husband.. at least that helped her to stay in the marriage.. 

As you said, it does have many sides.. whatever it is, stay strong in the LORD.. pray for your marriage everyday without fail though have happy life.. hold on true to the covenant we made in HIS presence on our wedding.. these r the lessons I learned..

[10/25/2019, 10:23 PM] Th: The hidden reasons so far I see for many marriages to fail

1.Women empowerment used in the wrong sense to motivate the thought that I can earn and take care of myself and I don't want to waste time fixing this troublesome marriage.. 

2.Parents who keep telling the daughter that she need not take this anymore and she can lead her life with the parents support. 

3.Marriages are taken for a toss when the couple live in geographically different locations immediately after marriage for various reason. (whatso ever may be the situation the couple should try not to be separated for more than 6months.. This is applicable for all experienced couples too)

[10/25/2019, 10:31 PM] Th: 4.Most unhappy marriages have their fingers pointed to In-laws issue.. This is a very sensitive topic again and varies from one family to another ..God has clearly mentioned each ones role in a family.. But we have to wait on God for people to understand and make the right decision.

[10/25/2019, 10:46 PM] Pr: I think this is either in "God is a matchmaker" book by derek Prince or "this momentary marriage" by John piper

[10/25/2019, 10:48 PM] Pr I recently was doing research in this topic.. as few of my colleagues and church frd s going thro divorce.. n i heard in many sermons.. tat even sexual morality s not a reason for divorce.. in original version of bible text.. it's mentioned as immorality before marriage. It's allowed as Joseph was trying to do with Mary.

[10/25/2019, 10:50 PM] Pr: So wat i heard is tough for anyone going through rough time... Divorce s not at all allowed in bible even for sexual immorality

[10/25/2019, 11:06 PM] Ro: In other words, divorce is permitted in cases of sexual immorality but not commanded. You can choose to forgive and mend the broken relationship.

[10/25/2019, 11:13 PM] Pr: https://youtu.be/h5CtfT-MqgA

10/25/2019, 11:30 PM] Rosy Priyan Fshp: 1.Marriage is a covenant relationship.We keep our commitment regardless of whether the spouse keeps it up or not.

2.God himself seals every marriage , makes it official and binding, even if it's a poor/ wrong choice/ out of the will of God.

3.Divorce for drunkenness/desertion/non support/abuse or incompatibility is forbidden in the bible.

If only people understood this, they d make wiser choices and be slow to marry.

5.if a partner fell into adultery, the spouse should forgive and re claim his wife or husband .A child of God is permitted to seek divorce if the mate is definitely committed to a course of immorality and sexual sin.

6.Divorce has so many serious repercussions- kids are affected, economic disaster, public disgrace, testimony of a Christian, wrecks your own love and happiness.

If God insists that the home must go on, then a loving God will give grace to meet the temptations and troubles that married life brings.Since God refuses the right of divorce to Christians,  surely He knows how to restore the happiness and joy of marriage!

[10/25/2019, 11:34 PM] Rosy Priyan Fshp: If your Christian friends are going through divorce or thinking of it, please please tell them they dont have to go through it. Prayer changes things.Power of a praying wife is a good book that guides wives to pray for their husbands. God wants to restore our marriages.