Tv time tips for parents

[5/21, 2:59 PM] Beulah: How many of you, have no TV at home? And how do you handle it?
[5/21, 3:03 PM] Jansi Word Of: No screentime for kids? (Reframe the question) my 1.25 is already glued to screen at times
[5/21, 3:05 PM] Rosy Priyan Fshp: I think if they are not exposed, it doesn't become an issue at all..
[5/21, 3:05 PM] Rosy Priyan Fshp: My kids watch though.
[5/21, 3:06 PM] Beulah: We don't have a TV at home. But they are used to watching phone, which I think is worse than the TV😒😐
[5/21, 3:11 PM] Rexlin: Laptop is better than mobile... With restricted timings... Strictly to be followed....

Not to have any games in mobile...
I installed few bible puzzle games recently and dealing with it now.. 🤷🏼‍♀
[5/21, 3:11 PM] Rexlin: Try new board games along with them when they ask for mobile / laptop
[5/21, 3:12 PM] Rexlin: Mobile should not be reachable to them... 😉
[5/21, 3:13 PM] Beulah: True, but they get it someone when we use it for calls.
[5/21, 3:18 PM] Prarthana: Agree..  we too don't have TV but my son is fond of mobiles and he is just 1.7 years.. I try my best to engage him with other toys but he goes for the mobile .. it's because of the colourful motion pictures..
[5/21, 3:21 PM] Jansi Word Of: Hmm and I think they must be exposed to at least few good things they can engage with, with strict supervision and time control.
[5/21, 3:21 PM] Jansi Word Of: If we don’t teach them, the world would, obviously down the line
[5/21, 3:31 PM] Janani mcity: As a child I was glued to Tv whenever it's on. Even now when screen is on my eyes will be glued. I don't want my kids to be like me. Though I have strict screen times for them, they do pop in front of the tv. Lesser the better I feel.
1. I minimise taking mobile when they're home.
2. Tab, laptop - Password secured
3. TV Remote not reachable earlier (now in front but they ask if wanna watch)
4. Set time before turning on.
5. Less than 2 yr - NO gadgets- as it affects the brain/neural development not just eyes.
6. Better to avoid mobile/tab(very close to eyes)
[5/21, 4:36 PM] Sharon Preeti: No TV at home, but kids do have screen time. We have a desktop computer with a big screen, which doubles up as 'TV', of course, controlled content.

What I do? I am guilty of spending much time on phone. Trying to reduce usage. One thing I do is, I avoid phone from about 9 AM to 12, so I can have focussed time with the kids. I pick up phone calls, though, which I usually don't have many of.

For kids: they usually have 30 minutes of 'TV time' in the evenings after they clean up plus on some days, a few minutes here and there of some supervised content, usually educational or seeing photos, on the computer or phone screen. No unsupervised phone or tablet for kids. I know screen is not good for less than 2 years, but my 20 month also watches with his brothers, 😔 because it is very hard to engage him in something else when other kids are watching. He is drawn to thr screen.

How we manage? I think it harder to introduce and then stop. At one point, they were getting out of hand watching TV at grandparents place - they live right down the stairs. We had to lay down rules and also teach kids why we don't watch certain shows. It is easier to control time on the computer because we choose one episode and watch through it. So it's usually 30 mins.
[5/21, 4:39 PM] Sharon Preeti: And I think it is easier to manage when I am not glued to the phone 😁
[5/21, 4:42 PM] Beu Sam: In my house, the kids have chores and they earn their TV privilege to watch 2 episodes of wild Kratts which are about animals. When they lie, or not obeying, the first punishment will be no TV for a week... since my 4 yr is still in preschool, she gets to play some learning games in my phone for another hour... they both love to sing songs... me n my husband don't play anything other than Christian songs at home or in car/ van...  we watch couple of programs ( like amazing race, sea world) with the kids during weekends... otherwise, they will play in their room when the TV is on..
[5/21, 4:45 PM] Beu Sam: If we limit our TV time, it will be much easier to make them understand the TV time... so, when it is my TV time, they aren't suppose to watch if they don't want to loose their TV time😝
[5/21, 4:46 PM] Kani: I don't watch TV . And I don't mostly use phone in front of her.
We subscribed few channels but now we shut t down.
She uses phone while eating alone. Less than one hour screen per day s my rule.
Other than eating time no other time mobile to her.
I observed that when I dont use phone she doesn't bother much only wen I use it she cries for it. But others using is real challenge , she some how manages to get from my MIL. Dont know how to control it. I m praying that she starts  somehow to dislike it by herself.
[5/21, 4:51 PM] Kani: But I started disliking it recently. I believe wen I dont expose her for a prolonged period I mean for really looong period they ll dislike t. I stopped watching movies since 2007 till 2012, I mean zero movies or any entertainment in those 6 yrs by Gods supernatural grace. . I do watch now and then. . I do watch but that addiction is totally gone down to almost zero. So I m praying so.
[5/21, 4:52 PM] Kani: After 2012 now and then I m watching now. But I m out of t now.

Testimony on God's care

My son is turning 7 today...!

Yes... Today is my little boy's birthday 😊
Whenever I look at him, I used to blame myself and that past instance came to my mind which cause an impact on his development. When he was around 1.5 yrs old, his fever got shoot up to 104 and got seizers for few minutes. This was happened when he was in my lap and I was about to give him sponge bath. He got hospitalized, recovered and then for next 2 to 3 yes we were observed a delay in his socialize development. We ran to Chennai's no 1peadiatric psychiatrist, followed with number of therapies to make him normal.

But in all these ways which he travelled so far, we can sense and praise God's presence over him all the time.... For others eye he is a normal boy who is just shy of to communicate but as parents we know where he need support and encouragement. As worldly parents if we know our kids these much, how far our heavenly Father knows us and cares for us each and every second.... This is a great learning for us from our son's life so far.... He is a great blessing for us who unite me and husband under one roof(we were just met on       weekends for last 10 yrs due to job nature) and he is a perfect younger brother for my eldest son ( he used to tell this often).
My son is improving a lot by God's grace and God has perfectly set forth his way wherever he go (school environment/therapists/friends etc.,).
I completely trust on God for my son's future as He is the one who gave him in our hand to bring him for His glory 😊
Praise our heavenly Father with me and pray for our little boy 😊

Testimony of job, baby

This is my first testimony post.. Sorry, It is a lengthy one.. so thought of sending it part wise😃

Part 1 : Beginning of my Software testing journey

God is so great❤ He has perfect plans for us in his right time🙏

After my college, I got placement in Infosys. But, it ws recession that time, It took us around 1 year to join the mysore training. During that time, my parents tld me to try out some other jobs in Trivandrum. But frankly I wanted to go somewhere away from home for sometime.. 😁that ws my first hostel experience .. i met a frnd there Annie(She was in EC in my college) who is my closest frnd nw..

After the training, we all college mates got posted in Trivandrum.We were trained in Java dev, but I alone got project in manual testing. I was sad coz i always dreamt of coding from school days and all my frnds were in dev prjcts.

I was sad initially but again i fought for dev prjcts when i was in bench. Even dev managers were ready to take me..But infy policies nvr allows us to change units😊

Coz of my fight with testing tpd.. that day eve i was allocated to Nordstrom testing project. i felt it was unfair, but never thought it was Gods plan.

Initial days i struggled a lot with prjct coz i was the only person in offshore.Bt later Nordstrom became my family.. i had good relationship with managers there.. and later my cubicle mate became my manager.

I got married that time.. my husband was working in chennai near to shols.. I was sad about hearing other frnds story abt transfer.. that too everyone predicted.. transfer to shols is impossible..

But my manager genuinely helped me a lot to get me into shols.. that time another nord manager came to me and tld.. u can work from anywhere u want and my manager approved shols.. I couldn’t believe hw things happened.. just coz of this Nordstrom prjct, i was in shols..after my mariag leave, i directly joined there

Part 2: Life in Chennai

Finally i reached shols.. i had a very gud time there.. got very good frnds.. good projects.. home was nearby..

My husband was working in shifts..he is into logistics field..my hus had gud post bt ws earning less than me.. after sometime, we realized that it wnt b gud in future if we proceed like this..

We wanted move back to Trivandrum or kochi.. but my husband didn’t get any options.. so we decided to try somewhere abroad since he hav gud options there..

We decided to try for Australia coz my husband doesnt like cold places like Canada..we consulted one agency..since i was into IT, i had to be primary applicant., i was scared about Ielts.. i had to get 8 fr all bands🥴

Wrote 1 time.. got failed... from somewhere I found an online tutor.. she was an angel fr me😇 i dnt even know hw i managed work,cooking, his shifts, online Ielts coaching.. God gave me the strength in those difficult times..i was stressed and tired.. i wrote 2nd time.. result was 8.5 8.5 7 6.5.. i was shattered, i was expecting atleast 7 fr all bands.. i was very sure i will gt 7 for speaking.. I thought of giving it fr revaluation.. it will again cost u 6k or sumthng.. it wl refund if u get changed score.. even my tutor tld very less chance to get raise in speaking.. i prayed and gave it for revaluation.. and i got 7 in speaking😃.. God is so wonderful🙏

With 7 in all bands, i somehw get into Australia pool.. but it was just entry score.. agents started calling me to write ielts again for 8 band which i knw ws impossible for me.. ielts was a nightmare fr me and i prayed and cried to God that i dnt want to write it again

Australia Application will expire in 2 yrs and nothing happened in those 1.5 yrs.. i waited for the invitation, but never got..

We always thought we will change the job/ move back to home/ go abroad and think about the  kid.. But our priests wife and an elderly woman in our chennai church influenced us a lot.. Soon we thought of planning for a kid.. i just forgt abt Australia and dreamt about the kid..May b God is telling us this is the right time for kid..Still we didnt know wat we should do in future..Coz we were sure that my parents(my mother is having health issues)/his parents (they were at sis in laws place)wnt b able to look aftr my kid

At that time my prjcts got over in shols, i was called to mcity and my husband s office also shifted to ambattur at the same time.. we done the shifting to new house in tambaram, cleaning up everything and i was very weak..  within few days We came to know that I am pregnant🥰

Part 3 : My pregnancy

I had vomiting till my 6 th month.. i had pro with red chilli, curd, all kind of smells..luckily my hus was getting morning shifts most of that time.. he used to do cooking and takcare of me .. and my frnds in mcity they supported me very well throughout my pregnancy..
Also my spm and teammate were very so caring.. I was surprised to see how God surrounded me with such caring ppl..🥰

Travelling to mcity was my main concern.. then to my surprise.. my mother (God gave her strength) and in laws (although i dnt hav any issues with them.. i never thght they wl cum) came  in between and looked after me for some days..

As soon as my mother left.. my bloodtest result came.. doc called my husband said that it is showing downsyndrome

I was shattered..since v didnt had any family history.. doc tld nothing to worry but to confirm i hav to do amniocentesis.. she diagonised it very late and we had only 1 week time to do it..in kerala no1 is aware abt these things..I was scared and i read abt amniocentesis.. got evn more scared seeing the small chances of abortion.. bt i ws not able to handle the situation.. was gettng depressed..

Many ppl prayed for me.. my pm s were very supportive.. they asked me to take leave for sometime.. finally i decided to go fr it.. coz i was unable to handle the situation.. we wnt there and had amnio.. i took rest of 10 days..

Those 10 days were worse days of my life😔 finally i gt the result and everything was normal.. Thank God for his miracle❤

Then i joined back office.. at that time my friend Annie called me.. (She gt married and moved to Canada wit her husband)she enquired abt Australia.. i tld her that my application is about to expire and also ielts wl expire in some months..

She tld me y cant u try for canada.. i am also here.. u wl get it easily with ur score..i spoke with my husband, but he was not ready to go with agency.. we already lost much money for Australia.. he just tld me if u can do by urself .. do it

Dnt knw y.. I was hearing some inner voice.. u can do it.. I decided to apply myself for Canada Pr

Part 4: My delivery

I prayed .. God was giving me strength.. i checked different forums,fb sites.. started collecting details.. 7th mnth I was feeling very tired.. finally i decided go home for leave.. my pm approved my 2 months lop.. i wnt home to relax and have my mothers good food❤

Consulted doc there and i was diagonised with gestational diabetes 🙆‍♀ i was under diet after that.. missed my fav dishes..Thank God 🙏.. but it was controlled with tablets and diet.. i never took insulin..

But that didn’t stopped my journey to Canada.. i knew my ielts wl expire soon and i dnt want to write it again..i applied for transcripts during my last months..i was wandering in my university in my big 8 month belly.. and everybody was very supportive

I was getting tired day by day.. i was feeling like my baby wil come out anytime.. so i didnt do any work or walking or exercising.. my mother used to scold me.. my father was abroad that time.. my brother he was in college.. my uncles were also abroad.. so i was scared what will i do if nobody is there at that time

But Gods plan was great.. it was during my 8 mnth.. my water broke at 5 am in the morning.. i knew my brother wl b at home at that time.. we never expected 1 mnth befre.. but we were ready with the bags

I was admitted in labour room since it was 1 mnth before.. they gave me injection for lungs maturity and doc were hoping to giv another dose of injection next day mrng.. then plan fr the delivery

I was all alone in that labor room .. bed right infrnt of the wall clock.. they didnt allow anybody inside,. Just got 5 min time with hus and mom..

I was scared.. water was leaking the whole night.. baby was continuous kicking the machine they kept in my stomach for montoring heartbeat.. and i was not allowed to step out of the bed.. even they brought the toilet seat near to my bed..That was the longest night i ever had in my life..

Thinking about my kid.. counting each seconds..i was getting slight pain in between.. somehow it became mrng and they gave the injection successfully
But aftr sometime.. pain started and everything happened soon.. Thank God for the normal delivery ❤ My daughter is safe and healthy

But since it was premature she was directly taken to nicu..I was tired and stitch was paining a lot..
My milk supply was not started.. i was visiting my child in nicu and I couldn’t feed her.. she was on formula feed..

Finally after 1 week .. i got my kid to room..but she was having loose motion, heavy diaper rash and my milk supply was not ready
I kept on feeding her whole night and she was crying the whole time..Doc strictly instructed no vistiors for 1 mnth.. We took her home situation didn’t change.. she was on formula feed..

I was getting postpartum depression.. thanks to my frnds and breastfeeding support fb group who helped me overcome the situation..i was confident..i never doubted my supply and stopped formula feed.. finally everything was back to normal.. she gained weight

Finally we applied for Canada Pr. We were in the pool nw

Part 5: My journey to Canada

My mother looked aftr my daughter for 3 mnths.. God gave her the strength.. meantime my sis in law gt pregnant and in laws wnt there..i was still confused who will come with me to Chennai..my mother suggested for maid bt in law was against it.. my mother was nt well and in law has to takcare of sis in law..
At some point I thought i had to resign..

But Gods plan was something else..my in laws came with us.. they stayed with us till my sis in laws 8 month..

Months passed by.. as soon as i applied for PR.. scores started shooting up and i never gt the draw.. but during my ml.. my hus got a role change to Analyst..so aftr almst 1 yr, he applied as primary applicant..since he had mba v gt the draw soon.. days before my ielts score expiry v gt the draw.. Gods miracle❤ we hav done all documentations and submitted our application withn 1 mnth.. now it was time to wait.. dnt knw hw much time it wl tak.. whether it gets rejected

Aftr in laws left.. i took 2 weeks work from home.. i gt a lovely maid to suprt me that time.. my father resigned his abroad job and came home that time.. so my parents were able to come fr sometime to chennai to help me.. they were only able to stay for 2mths coz my father was searching fr job in Trivandrum ..

We got canada visa within 2 mnths.. i got promotion and asked fr onsite.. bt there was no luck .. and visa will expire in 6 months.. we had to land early as soon as possible..i wanted to land in toronto coz my frnd is there.. but hus had more openings in Vancouver, but it was very expensive.. so v decided fr Toronto and booked tickets

I was going to resign and my hr insisted me to take leave and go to Trivandrum for travel arrangements.. she tld u resign later if nothing works out.. i dnt even know y she supported me like that🥰 i wnt to Trivandrum ..

Everybody was concerned how we are going to manage with the kid without job.. we were praying to God to show us a path

and finally i gt prjct just few days before travel date.. that too for my infosys tool which i have wrked aftr my ml .. it ws Trivandrum based and i landed in toronto and moved to Vancouver for onsite prjct..

God has planned everything perfectly!🥰

Part 6 : My journey in Canada, last part of my testimony 😊

We reached Vancouver.. we dnt hav any frnds here..my hus ‘s second cousn.. whom he have met only may b 1 or 2 times when he was a kid welcomed us..arranged everything ..Wherever we go.. God will sent us angels to takcare of us😍

I started my work in client office.. it was a new client to infy..there were only 3 ppl from infy in client office.. and my client manager was an Indian lady..

To my shock, she was a bossy lady.. she made my life a hell.. it was my first onsite .. travel time was more.. aftr tht full time calls with infy offshores and managers.. tool was behaving weirdly and client was treating us like a slave..she had a double face and changing character

We came here during October.. it ws our first winter.. my kid was sick all the time.. it was first career break fr my husband.. he looked aftr the kid, food and everything.. i lost peace , time..

I didnt get leaves, work frm home.. infy ppl were not allowed to tak from home.. rest of the contractors and the permanent employees were at home most of the days.. during snow.. some days i had to sit alone at office

I started feeling bad.. i was not getting time for my family and i was just doing some manual testing.. not learning anything.. call starts from sunday..I couldn’t njoy any time

My seattle colleague was also facing the same issues , but she was on company visa.. so couldn’t do anything.. i know at one point the situation is going to be worse only until that lady is there in client side..

I was unable to explain the situation to friends and family.. Luckily my kid gt a daycare and she liked it very much.. Thank God🙏 normally it take months to get a daycare here

But my hus was not getting any job coz he doesnt hav canadian experience..not even a call.. he was getting down.. and i was unable to leave the job coz my hus was nt getting any.. and with this job i was unable to attend any other interviews..

Finally i took the decision to quit infy..this time i was strong.. that was the biggest decision i ever took in my life against my parents, hubby and all.. i knew it will happen if only it is Gods plan.. after 6 months of struggle, i quit infy

I knw it was Gods wish.. thats y it happened coz how many times i thght of leaving infy.. but it never hapened..I gt relieved from infy on a friday.. and my hus gt his job on the coming Monday .. initially fr 1 week he did a warehouse job and then luckily he gt job in his field and he is working there nw

Aftr quiting infy.. i felt relieved.. started spending time with my family.. started exploring canada.. started learning new testing tools.. i applied many jobs.. i was getting many calls.. attended many interviews.. but couldnt clear..

Still i was not feeling bad.. i knw God will show a way.. finally aftr 3 rounds and i gt selected in one company.. permanent ..near to my house.. etl testing.. I applied for functional testing bt i dnt knw how i gt etl testing .. God can do wonders 😃

And the surprising part is when i came to canada.. aftr 2 mnths i applied this company.. i felt this company will suit me.. but they rejected me.. nw aftr 8 mnths.. i aplied they called me.. due to this 6 months experience.. and with my 2 infy reference.. got this one.. with beter package.. i will start my new journey on June 10th.. and my journey continues😃

God plans are wonderful.. It will happen at his right time..🥰

Initially i lacked trust in God.. whenevr some situatn become worse ..i will complain to God.. but nw i hav complete trust on him.. watever happens it is according to Gods wish and it will best for us😃

Thanks to Beluah chechi, Ramya, Juliet, Joy to give me strength during my difficult times and scold me whenever i complain to God😁

Lost and found purse

A small testimony, I have lost my purse yesterday evening and realised only today morning when we were about to start to church. We decided after coming from church we will thoroughly search.

After returning searched a lot and      Came to a conclusion I had missed it yesterday. I prayed to God , if I get it back I will share testimony. But then decided not to test God like this.

My husband started scolding me and I was so upset 😭. The purse had lot of cards like my Aadhar , pan, driving license, debit card and all. At nearly 4 a electrician from our apartment came and asked did we miss a purse. It has been circulated in WhatsApp group and he let us know.

Finally I got the purse from the person who found it yesterday. I had dropped the purse near the church yesterday when I went for night prayer meeting. All praise to Jesus 🙏🏽

Gossiping at work

Good topic, from my side, I am a quiet person but I talk so much when I have an one to one conversation... if you want details from me, you can talk patiently and get everything out of my mouth... But, one day when in prayer, I was like totally crying because I've became a way for goasipping... I think like I am helping people sharing others burden but actually am false spreading... because everyone doesn't talk to you caring for other person... from that day I've stopped talking if it is not relevant.. It's ok if they think we are showing attitude.. for us Christ matters and no one

Also, one more thing wanted to share... i joined HCL and there were few others who joined with me... everytine I go for a break with them, a girl whom with o became close talks so.much...about stories from her house to office.... tqlkning and complaining... I use to hear and give a smile and support her talking with her.m but when I was reading about tongues in James, I actually started hating to be in that group...

1. It affects our time management in office ( we sit and gossip for long though I am not interested)
2. It affects my uniqueness (thougj I don't like I still be there just because they are friends)
3. It affects my   accountability (I come to office to work and log 8 hrs in my place but I sit and talk and log only 4 hrs in place)

4. I am affecting my deliverables on time

Overall I am losing my testimony

What i did was

1. I go for lunch.. never open my mouth if it is not relevant..  there are certain  times where we have to pitch in and show the love of Christ but at the same time we need not support such things

2. I make sure I sit for 8 hrs in my place

3. I don't talke a long break

4. When in place i make sure I focus in my work and not on the talks

5. And I never talk about others to anyone

Result was we have a tool which calculates how long I sit in my system ..... It was 8 hrs average and my manager called me once and told me like 'Carolon, I see you alone maintaining the hours and what is the reason..

My answer was simple...I told him I am accountable to God in what I do....

And He said immediayly.. Oh you are a Christian.. great...
Ya I have started practicing it
We have to be accountable for what we do and responsible for our activities
And that makes us unique

And make sure if we gather for prayer, I put extra effort before so I don't miss the fellowship
also I come to office now a days by 8.45 and leave by 6.30 and make sure I use my time efficiently
There are some impacts too... some use to say I am showing attitude and some tell me I am putting ice on my managers head for appraisal and some even said I am a robot and also had one comment from my friend - why do I ignore her...
Its ok... but we need to be .

It's so easy to get into the gossip mode even when we meet as believers.I ve been guilty of this too.

I ve had extended tea breaks n lunch breaks.

Yes Rosy.. sometimes it drains our energy too . We will never know that
I've been there and still there but with the help of God trying to come out of it