Raising kids and education

Until my 8th grade I studied in CSI Ewarts. A matriculation syllabus school. I was a bright student. No complaints etc.
for my 9the we had to move to Bangalore. I studied in Bishop cotton girls for one year . Later that same year my dad moved to Muscat. And we followed at the end of the academic year. So 10th grade in muscat - Indian school Oman. CBSE syllabus.  I started playing academic catch up then. When I started 9th grade I had missed the coaching and special classes that was mandatory for the student in the 8th grade break. And when I went to the 10th grade in muscat, they had already finished the syllabus in 9th grade and were revising for the entire academic year. I had no idea what was going on.
When my dad came to school to urge the teachers to help, they said she doesn’t ask doubts. When I would ask they said come for tuitions to my house. At the same time, our home life was a mess, trying to get used to a new country, making friends, fitting in and the worst blow of all. My mom was so sick that she became 32 kgs. No one could find out what was wrong. They had to fly her to India. She was in CMC for almost 6 months. In the mean time until dad came home from work I had to be with my little brother. Ruling out every day tuitions. I went on weekends. But I remember all those teachers just shouting at me. Because I can never catch up like this.
Finally my marks caught up with me. In 10th I just passed in all my subjects. Everyone called me dumb and said it was a miracle.
My dad didn’t choose to move around so much, the situation he was in it was either move and get a promotion or become unemployed. I know how much each one of us went through with all the juggling about.
By the end of 10th grade I was depressed and dejected. I came back to India for my 11 and 12th. I forced my parents to let me come back here. I studied in a boarding school. But I was already termed the dumb kid and it followed me everywhere I went.
So when it came to my children I spend hours on my knees asking God for direction because I didn’t want my children to suffer. I didn’t want them to get lost or fall through the cracks of a system that was ever shifting.
And when the holy spirit ministered to me about this. Some profound things imparted to me were.....
Daniel, Shadrach, Meshac and Abednego.
They didn’t just have to compete with the best, they had to be the best, and it wasn’t because of peer pressure or family needs. Their very lives depended on it.
But how they did it was what pleases God.
From the get go, they knew they were set apart, they knew that no matter who they competed with or what position they were given they would do exceeding above and beyond because they were working for the most high God.
They did their due diligence....  Their hard work was rewarded because they also knew the importance of asking God.

What they were meant to do?
How?
When?
Why?
They ask God to be their strategic guide in and through it all.
The only two non negotiables in their lives were whom their God was and how they worshiped HIM.
How often do we as parents ask GOD these questions regarding our children before we consider their education.
Are we teaching our children to have these basic principles as non- negotiable, of who their GOD is and how important worshipping HIM in consistence is......
My children study in a catholic school that gives all religions equal importance. It is supposed to be following the Cambridge curriculum. But the system they finally ended up following is one very similar to the CBSE system. Even the smallest of things in school used to get me so upset. But again the holy spirit taught me to pray for my children. Where ever they go their teachers favour them. And our stance on GOD does not change no matter what. Not for international Yoga day or anything else.
And God has been faithful in blessing our children.

2019 Thanksgiving 6

When my son was at the age of 1, i still remember rushing him to child trust in an ambulance from Bethesda hospital. His small intestine went into big intestine some complication.. anus bleeding..he became unconscious. He was let into emergency ward..doctors said that they will blow air thrice so that automatically small comes out.. otherwise major surgery..i stood outside in tears praying and watching thro a small glass window..first blow, nothing happened, second blow nothing happened.. i cried and cried for a divine intervention..third time i could see that small came our from large intestine...wow it's a miracle..Our Lord is a true living God! I knew that day..my faith became so strong..this happened 8 years before.. Praise God..all glory to Him alone..😊

2019 Thanksgiving 5

Girls, I would like to share a testimony with you that would encourage you in your Bible reading and quiet time with God. I had been often discouraged in my daily quiet times. I would do it as a duty. It was a namesake Bible reading and prayer. I was listening to some children of God speak about how refreshing their time with God was, I was also having the desire to experience this. As I was thinking about it, God showed me how my time on my phone is hindering me from having a real quiet time with God. I decided that I would take my phone into my hands only after I had spent my time with God. For the first few days, it was just like forcing myself to do something. But then I began to see transformation in my prayer life. God started speaking to me from his word most of the days, even from dry passages. Even my prayer life began to blossom. I started to experience the presence of God with me through out the day. Bible reading and prayer became a happy time. I want to encourage you today- whatever your struggle is, identify it and ask God to help you. Take one tiny step to discipline yourself. When we take one step towards God, he honours it and comes running towards us. God has no partiality. What he is doing for me, he will definitely do for you too.

2019 Thanksgiving 4

*Testimony 1 on Bible reading and Request to each of u* . - I wanted to share this testimony to encourage u to read and meditate God's word passionately.. I was struggling a Lot to read the Bible consistently ..i would make decisions in the start of the year and begin with Genesis in January but then fail within few chapters.. would start a book but would not complete.. Would just read proverbs everyday..i wasn't satisfied in my soul.. I alwaz thought following a Bible reading plan would only make me to rush the reading for the sake of completion..But God spoke to me. Clearly that I need to take a step to discipline my Bible reading..
In January 2019,i made up my mind to choose a plan and searched thru the web for the plan that would suite me..By God's grace choose the 2year bible plan with alternative old and new testament..To be more accountable and not to step back on decision and also to encourage people like me to read along.. Started what'sapp group In our wives group.. We will have to daily read the portion and send completed or thumps Up symbol. In group after reading the portion.. When we find time we can share our learnings too.. By God's grace many are on track and there so many testimonies on how God spoke to each one during their meditation.. I would love to encourage u (in case ur not consistent in bible reading)  to discipline ur bible reading time and follow a plan and be accountable to someone.. Praise ND thank God for His goodness..

2019 Thanksgiving 3

This year , God helped me realize many of my shortcomings . He also helped me overcome them.
Financially , I was amazed at ways God provided for my family . Exactly at the time of need , some long pending amount (which we would have forgotten totally) would reach us . It was wonderful.
Spiritually , I could feel God teach me so many lifetime lessons such as “FAITH”. I saw many prayer requests in my diary getting answered.
At work, I was in awe of how God lifted my head high. Very minor things that I had learnt in my previous projects was the one Big major thing in my current project . The best part was nobody knew about it. His ways are inscrutable!!!

There are so much more. But will stop here :)

2019 Thanksgiving 2

2019 - for helping me to tc of my kids alone except weekends (my husband helps me). June 2019 Joanna fell down from bed while playing and she got airline crack in her elbow, Praising God for His protection over her. June 26 , Nathaniel turned 1 Praise God, hope you all remember my pregnancy days. I feel so lonely and frustrated sometimes as i stay at home always and take care of kids but God helped me find my Joy in Him by seeking Him more these days praise God 🙌🏻. All Glory to God alone.

2019 Thanksgiving 1

Dear friends, shall we all share one or 2 things that God helped us through in the year 2019 and for which our heart is full of gratitude to God thinking of it.

I will begin 😁

When year 2019 started, we were in complete sickness as a family. My husband was in onsite. We really longed for his love and missed him so much starting Jan 1st. But God was so faithful to help me take care of family. He taught me to depend only on Him and i got so closer to Him than ever before. We as a family could travel to US for 3 months, office leave approval, travel to and fro with 2 kids in flight, each and every day of 2019 was purely by God's grace. As a family we all fell into sickness atleast for 3 months in this whole year but still God healed us and brought is back to normal every time. My husband is back with me from Oct 10th which is a miracle again. Recently both me and husband had struggles at work place. Again God helped us to overcome the difficulties purely by His grace.....countless are His blessings...my heart is full of gratitude for our dear Lord Jesus Christ...If not for God i would not be alive today... Praise God..all glory to Him...

Lesson on what we take for granted

A miracle through an earnest prayer

I never had the problem of irregular periods from the start of my puberty. But after my second delivery my cycle resumed from the fourth month and my periods started being irregular and the reason at first the doctor assumed was due to ebf. Months later the days further increased. And when I went for some other consultation the doctor noticed the thyroid gland changes and told me to immediately check and come. To my shock my TSH level was. 31.7. we were shocked and she told me to take the tablets. but the tablets caused palpitation and I didnt take it after a month. I didn't much bother about the irregular cycles until when my schoolmate posted about where it lead for her. And that's when I realised why my doctor had kept insisting to bring the cycles to regular. I then again resumed my thyronorm tablets but my palpitation increased and I had to stop and then I started praying for my Cycles. I confessed for being so proud of not having problem in my cycles earlier and said I will never repeat it and I begged for pardon and I claimed God you are the one who has created me. Each and every organ of mine were designed and created by you please forgive my pride and heal my periods irregularity. And last month the cycle was 35 days and this month it has become 29 days. I praise and Thank God alone for this miracle where He never let go of my faith. I checked my thyroid and it had come down to 9.7 it still has to reduce I didn't take the tablet it was purely miracle. Praise God. Never be proud in your thoughts regarding any issues God knows them even that He takes into action is what I learnt.

What a mental stress it was for us the past nearly for a year this periods irregularity. Thank God for this miracle.

Baby healed in womb.

Hi all ...a testimony ..I am carrying my second baby and its 5 months now...during my anomaly's scan doctor has told that the umbilical card is having only two vessels instead of three vessels(you can see it's effect from internet).I was very much worried and scared.Felt emotionally down . Doctor has suggested for foetal echo to see the baby's heart functionality after 22 weeks.i was praying earnestly saying all the good and perfect gift is from above ..Jesus during my next scan I should hear that baby is doing perfectly inspite of having only two vessels...By gods abundance grace todays scan reported that umbilical cord is having 3 vessels and everything is perfectly normal...praise be to God...ilathavaigalai irukiravaiyaga maatrugira Devan ♥...please keep me in your prayers and my due date is Jan 26.

Premie health

Hi my 2 year old boy Eric is down with fever this morning. Kindly put him in your prayers. But when I tell you this prayer point I can't resist praising my Father Lord for keeping him all healthy without falling sick from Feb till sep. I had a real tough time last year most often till Feb 2019 cos Eric will fall sick so easily after any small travel or so. Being one month premature in his birth we faced lot of struggles all through. But by God's grace he stood through all travels / food etc without falling sick from Feb till sep.. I'm sure that he will be healed soon in the name of Jesus. But I just want to share this bit of testimony to praise God for all situations 😊

My son was born early too. By 2 1/2 - 3 years old the doctors told us he should have an improved immune system and things will be much better. But until he turned 5 we really struggled. Around his 5th birthday he got chicken pox. In January! The little one who was 2 1/2 years younger than him didn’t fall sick as often as him.....
I remember breaking down and asked God for some help.
I felt the Holy Spirit prompt me to place my hands on him and declare health and wellness over him. Since then we have had (I think) one viral infection in 9 months. 😊

Teaching kits discipline and verses

Every kid is unique. Please consciously and consistently pray for God's wisdom and guidance.  He will teach us and guide us on every small matters. My little one is very naughty. So I assumed she might be like that. But with God's guidance from people of God I understood that I need to take conscious effort to discipline her. She used to bite and hit others. But it has reduced much now. I used to give timeout on happy chair. We constantly tell her that she will get lot of friends only if she behaves well and only the I can call her Jesus girl like that. I took conscious effort to teach her verses which I assumed initially not possible with her. It is only God's grace. My inlaw makes a small prayer and repeat one small verse in Tamil daily before going to school. Go to school and understand the situation on what is the trigger. Sit and talk to her teacher. Pray and deal with it accordingly.

My elder one in 3rd std was constantly made to stand out and sit in table outside classroom in school. He informed me twice. But I ignored saying you would have done something naughty. Third time he told me I want tc, I don't like to go to school etc. Then I sensed something wrong and went and spoke to her teacher. I understood that she has her own way of disciplining kids but my personal opinion was not to make a small kid stand out for Very small silly things. I spoke to her very clearly don't make my kid stand out for very silly things, for it is affecting him very much. I infact told not to do for any other kid as they might become insensitive if you do it often not even realising their mistakes. After that things are little better, but I am consciously praying about it for both kids touching then during my early morning prayer and talking to him daily.

I needed to let him understand that every teacher is unique. Despite however they are, you need to Honor and respect them. God is teaching you with all kinds of people. Till 2nd std he had very good teachers who motivate positively and show lot of care and very good  understanding and rapport with him.

Took time to share my experiences so that it will be useful to someone who is in need.

Thanks for sharing, Joyce. Happy chair- good concept. When I give time out, I make it feel like a punishment. But this is very nice. One more thing, can you share tips on how you taught her verses? I find it hard to teach my younger one.

😁 It was very very hard Jini. I was praying that I  should use my break from work(3 months in US with hubby) efficiently to somehow spend solid time to mould my kids. I literally was worried about little one when I started there. Everyday I kept an alarm, to sit with them to teach songs, pray and make them learn verses. Both of my kids fight for individual attention from me. It's a challenge. The moment I start learning verses along with Chad my elder one, Adlin will cry, scream to somehow stop it. I used to make her sit in the cycle and ride inside the house and make her repeat again and again. I Run, jump, shout, do funny actions etc. do all kinds of show to somehow make her repeat. She needs to be pampered, hugged often kissed etc to grab attention. In casual times, like while trying to sleep in the afternoon, I make Chad tell verses. Adlin will shut his mouth and in competitive spirit she will try to tell. 😀😃😄 Competition worked a lot. Evening once Charles comes home and during night bed time ,  I will applaud her and motivate her to tell the verse to dad. You should somehow make your kid repeat again and again. Chad elder one learns very easily. Each kid requires different kind of time duration and attention.
[8/23, 11:40 AM] Joyce: Spending significant time with kids is the key to make them learn. After I joined back work, I spoke to my inlaw to help Adlin to repeat one Tamil before she starts out of the house to playschool. I daily check in the evening with Adlin, did you learn today and make her repeat it. Chad reads our wimh verse series on his routine before going to school. I have stuck it on the door. He has finished more than 6 topics in wimh. Praise God. I also reward little gifts to motivate them to learn.
[8/23, 12:26 PM] Joyce: Word in my heart series. We have a separate group who encourage us and each other to memorize verses. Many mommies in this group who are part of it have learnt more than 10 topics. It's very useful. I follow NKJV version. You can choose your own version and learn along with your kid if he/she is grown up. I introduced and encouraged in my church Sunday school and many others to learn this series for rock solid foundation on Christ. I will share the references shortly.
[8/23, 12:55 PM] Joel Girl Fshp: I used our bed time to teach my elder one psalms 23... Night before she sleeps while lying on the bed I used to say the verses aloud and she repeats after me... I also make her remember the verses while we walk to school in the morning... I started when she was 2 and half years... Now she's almost 3 and half she now says Psalms 23 and few other small verses...
[8/23, 12:56 PM] Joel Girl Fshp: I praise God for WIMH, that helped me and my kid to study verses...

Disciplining children

I recently attended a seminar on parenting and here are some lessons I learnt in terms of disciplining-
1. Kids need to learn to obey. Dont let them manipulate you. Never do the counting - I'll count to 3 and you do it. They need to learn to obey when you say once. And if they dont let them know the consequences. It could be no tv time, or no chocolate or a spanking and make sure you do it.
2. Be consistent in your disciplining. If you say they will be punished if they dont obey, then be consistent at all times. Dont let them go one day and punish on some days. That will confuse the child.
3. Regarding beating/spanking - I know that recent secular parenting forums advocate for no spanking etc. But the Bible says that foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child and a rod of correction will drive it out. And spare the rod, hate your child. So beating/spanking is not necessarily wrong. It may not be necessary if your child has learnt to listen with just you telling them. But if they dont listen, or do something wrong disciplining is necessary. But as others have mentioned - dont do it in your anger. Calm yourself first but let the child know that they will receive a spanking for their disobedience. Dont do it in front of others (it will cause them shame). Do it in private and explain why they have to get this beating.
4. If you do beat in anger, go apologize to them. Not for the disciplining but for your anger. They will learn that we all make mistakes but must apologize.
5.. God has entrusted the child into your hands and not you into the child's hands. Just as God in His love will discipline us even if we dont like it, we must discipline our children if we truly love them.
6. Above all, the time you give to them teaching and training them in the ways of the Lord is very important. It's never too early to teach them to word of God. Spending time in prayer for your children is very important. I'm sure you've read about Suzanna Wesley spending time praying for each of her 18 kids separately! 2 of her kids were John wesley and Charles Wesley!

Some verses from the bible in this regard.

Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.
Proverbs 23:13‭-‬14

Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Proverbs 13:24 ESV

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
Proverbs 22:15 ESV

It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness.
Hebrews 12:7‭-‬10
[11/10/2018, 10:33 PM] Sharon Preeti: Children know they can get their way with grandparents and other family members. Tell the others also that these are the rules for her. If the parents are consistent with discipline, then other family members will also ultimately come to terms with the boundaries you have set for your child.
Children also test the boundaries and see how much we will give in. We need to be firm, especially in the beginning.

Nice to see good & meaningful discussion over the matter. Praise God. I was thinking, whether I'm the only person who beats kids. I know it's not wrong to do within godly limits

https://www.google.co.in/amp/s/www.gotquestions.org/amp/disciplining-children.html

Would encourage those interested to read this for a biblical response to disciplining children..

Disciplining kids with love (happens only when you are emotionally stable) - *OK*

Disciplining when you are angry or emotionally unstable (less or no love) yelling/scolding/spanking or hitting  - *NOT OK*

We cannot say i always love my child even if I yell at him/her.(which I do)

Love is a choice. When we re emotionally unstable we can never make a right choice/decision.

I have a friend who hits her child with a plastic scale but not brutally or forcely. Calmly she explains what wrong they have done n ask them what they could have done better n ask them show palm n gentle tap.

Only if I could follow her example, before settling or calming I won't raise my voice or hit. It's instantaneous reaction. No time to think n respond. Inspite of knowing it all, following is very hard.

Waiting for project to Wfh

Hi everyone
I wanted to continue what i had written almost a year back 😬.
By GOD'S grace i got into a good project. the work wasnt too challenging but related to my technology. It was a project in its pilot phase for the client involving offshore for the first time if things went well they were ready to have an offshore team for other projects.
I got pregnant in January 😄 and since i was the only offshore the project did not have a odc and i was free to work from home with the work not being to stressful.
since January i never went to office and connected from home, it was so helpful for me with all the vomiting and tiredness.
By God's grace all the onshore ppl were foreigners who were very considerate i used to connect only after 11 and after 5 they would ask me to wind up.
Now wen i think about all the restless time i had to wait for the project am so grateful to God for having given me this project.
BE STILL AND KNOW THAT I AM GOD.
so true 🥰 al we need to do is be still and trust in His plans.
We were able to complete the project successfully and now have got few other offshore teams as well 😄 but still can connect frm home 😊😉
I am planning to take ML from sept 15 and am due on sept 27..Pls keep me in ur prayers

How to love your in-laws.

The world gives a different picture of the relationship between mother in law and daughter in law. But that relationship can be loving and caring as well like how we are with our mothers. I'm trying to tell what God taught me over these years. This was the biggest struggle when we started married girls prayer in infy around 8 years back. But as we kept in prayers God started changing our perspectives of the way we deal with our mil

1. Truly speaking, every human being has an area of weakness however Godly we are. We need to submit ourself along with in laws into God's hands consistently in prayers first thing in the morning daily.
2. Need to ask God to consistently to heal broken hearts, hurts, wounds, past bitter memories, past incidents, any fear of being hurt, any fear of being judged,  etc. (As applicable to your situation) both in us and in laws lives. He will erase bitterness and heal us emotionally and make us strong. He will teach us to forgive and forget easily as we keep praying. I and my family have experienced transformation and God taught me a lot through Sheeba Rajasingh and many others in fshp. Today I should boast in the Lord God has me in perfect peace in my relationships. Verses below spoke to me over and over again. God taught me to humble, keep showing love and keep praying over every situation consistently. Every phase when there is a storm, I used to write down and pray for wisdom to handle the tough times.

1 Corinthians 13 1
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
3. Always try to please God in every aspect. Never try/expect to get recognition from any person in the world.
4. Practically if you notice,  Our own parents make mistakes. Some times We lose temper and we may fight, argue or hurt them. But then we patch up easily and start loving them easily. It happens automatically many a times and we don't think or remember it much. Same love if we ask from God, he is ready to pour out on us so that we can show the agape love to our in laws as well. You will start taking extra miles like how we usually do for our parents to make them feel that we love them, care for them and we Honor them. Its not easy. Only God can give the heart to us individually that we need to take care and Honor them always despite their and our weaknesses.

Nothing is impossible with God. He can heal and mend relationships which is hard in our eyes. He can make us emotionally strong than ever before.

From rebellious to submission and love

I want to share my testimony in this regard. - hope it’s not too late.🥰
When I got married I did/wanted to do everything my self. I got pregnant as soon as we got married, so we didn’t even set up our home yet. I stayed at my in-laws place initially. And then came home (to my parents) for confinement etc. There was always a cook and a cleaning lady in both homes. But I still did everything for my husband.
After my son was born. My husband and I set up home and moved into our own place. My son was 2 months old. - we moved so early because my in-laws wanted us to move back in with them. My husbands sister was also there my in-laws wanted her to bring up my son so that she will not feel bad about the delay with child bearing. They even stopped their maid and wanted me to go there and cook/clean for them.
Even after we moved away, every single day was a struggle. After a c-section, with a two month old I had to care for my pets (my husband got 2 boxer dogs🤣) my house, my husband and my child. When I couldn’t do all the work if my husband helped, his mom and dad would be so upset and it would cause us to fight so much. The first two months that we moved away we ended up spending more than ₹20,000 each month on petrol alone. Every free moment they would demand that we ran back there.
I was so broken and tired and just taken for granted.
After a point I broke. I became very rebellious. I stopped doing any work. If it was for my son I did stuff. Otherwise the house was a mess, the laundry was undone, and I just went off the deep end. I stopped speaking to my in-laws. We hired help with all the work. And my husband sort of started having a turn around moment.
I was clinically depressed and dis-interested in life. God really spoke to my husband. My husband changed slowly but surely. He apologised to me for all that had happened. But my heart was so hardened. I loved him dearly but I was so humiliated and drained I just didn’t want to process anything that was happening around me. I was so bitter and unforgiving.
That’s went I got very sick. Since then to a little after my daughter was born I was so sick and unable to do much. My husband stepped up and started doing almost everything. He helped with what ever he could do. There have been days where he would clean my son, the place and then come help clean me because I was projectile vomiting everywhere.
This softened my heart towards him and this cause me to submit myself to God.
Slowly God allowed me to mend our broken relationship.
My in-laws are still not able to fully accept me, but today by God’s grace things are much much better.

I share this because in a marriage things get messy. We tend to think that talking to some one is the easiest way to convey or needs/wants/expectations. And raising kids is not a walk in any park.🤣😁
It is easier to go to God. He will intervene for us and when we are wronged He will stand for us, protect us from hurt and do it in such a way that our loved ones don’t get hurt  or loose face either.

My prayer’s answers regarding my house or husband have not always been yes and amen. But HE strengthens me when it is a no. To overcome and face it with the strength that I can’t find in me.
Being an emotional person I let emotions wrap me up. But God in His grace, undid all the hurt that I managed to carry around. The easiest way is to bring it to God before the fight,frustration, tired irritation, helpless feeling.
He will help. He can make the sun stand still, the days longer, our bones stronger, give us supernatural power, even the rocks could walk in and clean the house....😂🤣.

Today my husband and I do almost all the work together. When we are not able to without invitation and on more than one occasion, friends and family have walked in and said I am going to clean go sleep.
No matter what don’t let satan steal the love and joy in your house. God is not an impractical person. He is a realist who will send help in one way or another because His word promises that He will supply all your needs, according to His riches.

What to pray for?

Hi Ladies,
We ought to pray for ourselves, our husband, children and extended family everyday. Please share your fervent prayer points that you think will be applicable for others blessings also.
Something I learnt was to pray 1.For Fruit of the Spirit everyday for myself and my husband.
2.For God's armor protection everyday
Please add if you think we should be vigilant and pray for anyother key and specific blessing each day to cover our families.

Colossians1:7-14 prayer
1) Requesting direction - Fill us with the knowledge of your will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding

2) Request to walk worthy of Christ's name - Help us to walk in a manner so that our conversation, conduct and character are consistent with JESUS

3) Requesting that our Life will make an impact- help us to bear fruit in every Good work

4) Requesting a desire to know God - Increase in the knowledge of God

5) Requesting to experience the power of God - Strengthened with all power according to his glorious might

6) Requesting to have the right attitude by joyously giving thanks - joyously give thanks to God

👆🏻 i used pray this for my family ( me, husband and kids)

Ask God to show you where you are just existing in your marriage. Then ask Him to help you connect in a way that allows you to cherish each other and your marriage.

👆🏻 recently learned this prayer

No help from spouse

How do we manage our kids and the chores at home if our better half doesn’t play a significant role?
Day by day I’m draining physically and mentally
Btw I work too😞I’m tired and want to know inputs from gals who are going through a phase like me but I don’t want to disclose it
From a shocker mom.

Answer 1:My best practical advice would be.. Better to outsource your work. If he s not capable/willing to work, employ helper. My dad wud say.. if you can afford.. u can set aside upto 10% of Ur salary for helper. By which you are helping somebody n as well can manage Ur home better
I have been in that place.. few yrs ago.. my husband being college principal wud start early n come home late.. weekends he had to work/travel. I was with 3 yr n Ard 1 yr old boys in a chaotic neighborhood.

Answer 2: First thing i understand it's very difficult. But keep consistently in prayers for positive understanding and support...Do believe me Nothing is impossible with God ...it may take months or years ...but definitely things will change and you will be amazed to see how God can hear our prayers...
Start your day with prayer and Bible reading early morning.. then plan your day that you will finish all cooking in the morning itself....For e.g.

1. the curry you make should go with rice/ chapati/ dosa/idly...
2. Bottle puliyodharai mix, lemon mix, tomato thokku etc . On weekends ....

3. Make cutlets and stuff in freezer for bread will be used often in US....

These are few things which I heard from my friends in US if it suits your family style of eating...also heard on one friend who cooks for entire week and stuffs in freezer..again it depends on your husband's choice..
My personal experience, while at home,  whenever I get up late and then try to cook, at the same time attend to kids needs, hubby needs...I end up in a mess...will start shouting...I expect from my hubby to take care of kids since he is wfh ...then all mess up..I feel guilty for shouting as well...I later realised that if my hubby is not at home I do all my routine chores happily..but only when he is there I over expect from him which becomes a mess... I felt God teaching me to enjoy my hubby presence at home rather than me making it a mess and turning into a nagging person...just wanted to share for those are struggling.. sometimes we over expect from our spouse and affect family peace bcoz I as an individual did not plan the day well...Again every day it's God's grace...even when I was at home for few months I was back on track only after I disciplined my morning prayer and bible reading as the first thing on the day...God taught me how to organise the day and use it wisely..

Answer 3: Other thing I notice in myself is ‘lack of appreciation’! Men like being appreciated. In fact who would not. Even if they do little help pls appreciate.

Very true. Experienced the same. Would long for hubby to WFH but when he's at home will think it would have been better if he had gone to office.

*Expectation*

But the small thought once Sharon Daniel shared that whatever hubby does is a help n be thankful for it, never complain or expect - changed my mindset

Answer 4 :I always complain that my husband doesn’t help in anything in the morning. He doesn’t even take towel when he goes to bath and keeps calling for towel when we are busy with ten things at least.
So it always kept me irritated
But now when I look back, on all those days, without cursing me for not boarding my morning shuttle which comes so close to my house, he always have dropped me at distant places for 9 am shuttle or out buses in spite of heavy traffic, which gets him late to his work.
And he never complained also, unlike me who always finds ways to complain.
Start appreciating for little things to begin with!

So much wisdom! ❤😁 I lash out in frustration/anger/tired state of being too. 😬God has been pushing me to unlearn that and alter my very nature in this aspect.

Answer 5
1. Surrender it completely to the LORD. Pray, read the Word of GOD and start your day. Believe me GOD gives you wisdom & strength to do it. Had been through this. Now started doing my work enthusiastically. Also, the LORD will make ur spouse understand.

2. Consider Prov 31. She does a lot of work. Last to sleep and first to get up. Do all ur work cheerfully. Work as to the LORD and not to men (Col 3:23,24). Not only the office work but also the household chores.

3. Discuss with ur spouse politely. Some men expect to be told explicitly (like mine 😜)  on what needs to be done rather than they doing it voluntarily. May be talk to him if he can help you by taking care of few things.

4. Pls try OPOS cooking if cooking takes u much time. It saves a lot of time. You can learn this during weekends and then implement. No need to keep standing and sautéing.. just layer and wait for whistles. Contact me for more details.

I try to get his help in anything except cooking.. my kitchen will be a mess if he comes to help me out there.. so I’m happy if he doesn’t help me in kitchen 😆

5. Play some songs when u do ur chores.. let kids help you too in some chores - folding clothes, loading & unloading washing machines or dishwasher, packing their snacks box etc

“Therefore, *whatever* you do, *do it heartily* as to the LORD and not to men,
Knowing that *you will receive the reward* of the inheritance for you serve the LORD CHRIST” - Colossians 3:23,24

Answer 6:

Do it as for the Lord
Never complain/compare

I am failing in these and still learning as He teaches me.

If you can do the chores -  praise God
If can't finish every task, still lotta pending - rest in His love.

*Condition of our heart more important than of our house.*

what I learnt this Sunday sermon(Martha Mary) Lord Jesus didn't mean that serving is not good, only praying is good. Condition of the heart - very purpose is important.
Must pray, listen His word, do the chores, take care of family, go to work - we may not be perfect in every aspect. That's ok. but are we worried/anxious/afraid what others wud think? Or are we enjoying His presence  in everything we do(perfect or not).

For e.g.
I always get ready on time, last minute. So with kids you know. And if I'm late I used to blame/complain all the way. Now if I'm late, will say a prayer and ASK his grace.

Me worrying not gonna change the situation. but trusting in Him and casting my cares on Him lightens my burden. Gives the kids happy moment avoiding stressed/unlikely sitn

When I shared with my daughter she asked how can one glorify God by chores? I had the same doubt too. But God looks at our heart. I am a full time homemaker(last 8 yrs) and I hate *every* house chores except cooking. Irritated by routine(I feel like robot). My house is a mess. But God is helping me n teaching me. And am still a novice.

This sermon came as an encouragement. Reaffirmation of what God is teaching me. Sharing so that it may help someone

Give and getting back t.i.m.e

Just a very small testimony. I am not finding  time to attend the fellowship activities. I always sit with the phone and laptop for office work all through my journey. But yesterday I went for Tuesday prayer in spite of some busy activities due for the day. I don’t know how and what! I didn’t open laptop during my return journey. God definitely adds hours to his people who please him. (At least I tried pleasing him yesterday) It doesn’t mean he literally adds hours, but he makes things easy for us, and that way he saves our time. (Just my experience I wanted to share.)

Lessons from Leah

[7/9, 6:20 PM] : One story from the Bible seems especially steeped in disappointment. Jacob agreed to work 7 years for the right to marry his boss’s daughter Rachel. But after fulfilling his contract, Jacob got a wedding night surprise. In the morning he discovered not Rachel but her sister Leah.

We focus on Jacob’s disappointment, but imagine how Leah must have felt! What hopes and dreams of hers began to die that day as she was forced to marry a man who did not love or want her?

Psalm 37:4 tells us, “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Are we to believe that God-fearing people are never disappointed? No, the psalm clearly shows that the writer sees injustice all around him. But he takes the long view: “Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him” (v. 7). His conclusion: “The meek will inherit the land” (v. 11).

In the end, it was Leah whom Jacob honored and buried in the family grave plot with Abraham and Sarah, Isaac and Rebekah (Gen. 49:31). And it was through the lineage of Leah—who in life thought she was unloved—that God blessed the world with our Savior. Jesus brings justice, restores hope, and gives us an inheritance beyond our wildest dreams.
[7/9, 6:21 PM] Cecilia: Came across this , the meek will inherit the Land !
[7/9, 7:09 PM] Juliet: How true!! I was surprised to see how Leah was good and blessed than Rachel when I did a detailed study for “Women in the Bible” sometime back... a new perception

Leah didn’t envy, steal, lie but glorified GOD after every child birth in choosing names... she was unloved by her own husband but loved by the eternal bridegroom.. Levi and Judah tribes come from her.. she herself bore 6 sons..

Rachel envied, stole the idol, lied to her father.. first to give her maid as wife..

People name their kids after her just for the beauty may be.. Leah is also a good name and in fact better 😊
[7/9, 9:01 PM] : God must have honored Leah’s cry for love
[7/9, 11:39 PM] : True the prayers of His parents didn’t  fall on deaf ears. 😬 Our God fulfils His promises no matter who claims them. V just need to understand the authority we have and speak them over our lives and over the lives of those we love in faith. ❤
[7/9, 11:46 PM]: It is said that after Jacob wrestles with God he had a limp all his life. Because his hip was out of joint. If Jacob didn’t cheat maybe just maybe he would have been able to meet Laban and with his parents support marry the girl he wanted without being taken advantage of and then wouldn’t have had to fight with God.
For God had already decided to bless his entire family.
[7/9, 11:47 PM] : Sometimes we mess up our own lives in pursuit of the best forgetting that His plans for us are better that even our wildest dreams.
[7/9, 11:55 PM] : We tend to assume blessing happen with miracles.. abraham, issac, jacob are testimony for how much effort it takes to get the blessing to manifest and reflect in life..
[7/10, 4:57 AM] : 👌🏼 very true.

Jacob cheated his bro tricked his dad yo get the blessing. But that didn't make his life better. He had to run for His own life soon after receiving the blessing, that too from his very own brother.

But
1. God's encounter with Jacob by dream and His Promise/covenant(made to Abraham) at Bethel.

2. Jacob's heart believing God n receiving the promise(vow)

That's the turning point. Not just that. Even while he was away from his fathers home in a foreign land *Gen 31:13*, while running away from his father in law *Gen 31:42* and while he returned after two decades with fear and distress before meeting Esau *Gen 32:9-12*, he still believed.

Life wasn't easier for him but still he believed in God n claimed His promises. Whereas Esau was mighty n had become a great ruler/nation. But one who was promised had to wait.

We often mess with our lives. But are we turning to God? Are we trusting God in difficult situation? Are we claiming His promises in impossible circumstances?

Healing from above

I'll share what i meant by sharing...

I had gone through mental illness,i guess still i am..everyone in my family!

For 22 years i had seen Physical and mental abuses of my parents.
They abuse each other. Publically, Privately...
There was not a place they never shouted,quarrelled,abused at each other...
Every night since child hood i used to cry myself to sleep... Every day they fight, every night they fight...

My longing prayer since childhood, is God please take them away or take me away.. sometimes i prayed to God to take my life just so that they can part their ways and move on with each other...
Children who usually being raise in this situation will bcme  mentally affected/ their studies will get weak/ they get affected psychologically. There was never a soul to ask me how i am.
But as a single child i am,God made sure i was protected from all those things...

You are seeing me happy and sane ,100% his grace and protection over my life.
He thought, "poor kid having a hard time, let me raise her up!"

He took me into his arms, he helped me speak to him in all those nights and days.He made sure there is always a soul to look after me or be with. He made sure i didnt go insane!

I should have also been treat psychologically as my mom and my Father but He made sure Am protected under His wings..

I have experienced what mental Illness is. I had a very dark childhood, that even now i fear if i think I'd go crazy!
But As Long as He is there for us,we dont need to worry about anything.

My parents stand as a testimony from divorce! They united in applying divorce in court, but God united them in soul and Spirit again!

If anyone can heal a soul, it's only Him❤

It you feel you are going through mental illness, stay there,He is with you in there!
Remember to whom you committed your soul and body with!

Fgb testimony- school for kids

Praise God for Olive school

I am an FGB. We were searching for school this year for my elder son. My husband wanted to put my son in NSN or Vivekananda (they don't even teach Johnny, Johnny yes papa because Johnny is a Christian name) in chitlapakam. But I wanted to put my son in a Christian school because I received salvation through aChristian school. I knew my God may have some other salvation plan for my kids since God already told me that (Genesis 17:7 - to be your God and the God of your descendants after you.) he will be our GOD. But it is my desire that my kids should study in a Christian school.
Before this incident ,God had taught me that “BOLD PRAYERES HONOURS GOD” so I decided to pray like this “God I don’t need any recommendation but I need Yours” After this prayer , things started to happen in other way, like my husband began to search higher authorities' recommendations. I was asking God to help me in my unbelief. As days went by my husband started to seek people’s help very badly which I did not want to happen . But God strengthened me in amazing ways in all these situations.
Praise God that he closed all the unnecessary doors which is not according his will and opened the door for Olive school. One day while I was on my way to office, God spoke to me through the word OLIVE - Thy children will be like olive. For my surprise the same verse was written everywhere in that school. Finally June 8th we paid the fees in olive public and June 10th was my son’s first day to school.
Important thing here is my husband doesnt know even a single bit of my heart’s desire but our LORD JESUS knows everything and he granted my request.

Yeah!!!! Praise be to his Glorious name.

Tv time tips for parents

[5/21, 2:59 PM] Beulah: How many of you, have no TV at home? And how do you handle it?
[5/21, 3:03 PM] Jansi Word Of: No screentime for kids? (Reframe the question) my 1.25 is already glued to screen at times
[5/21, 3:05 PM] Rosy Priyan Fshp: I think if they are not exposed, it doesn't become an issue at all..
[5/21, 3:05 PM] Rosy Priyan Fshp: My kids watch though.
[5/21, 3:06 PM] Beulah: We don't have a TV at home. But they are used to watching phone, which I think is worse than the TV😒😐
[5/21, 3:11 PM] Rexlin: Laptop is better than mobile... With restricted timings... Strictly to be followed....

Not to have any games in mobile...
I installed few bible puzzle games recently and dealing with it now.. 🤷🏼‍♀
[5/21, 3:11 PM] Rexlin: Try new board games along with them when they ask for mobile / laptop
[5/21, 3:12 PM] Rexlin: Mobile should not be reachable to them... 😉
[5/21, 3:13 PM] Beulah: True, but they get it someone when we use it for calls.
[5/21, 3:18 PM] Prarthana: Agree..  we too don't have TV but my son is fond of mobiles and he is just 1.7 years.. I try my best to engage him with other toys but he goes for the mobile .. it's because of the colourful motion pictures..
[5/21, 3:21 PM] Jansi Word Of: Hmm and I think they must be exposed to at least few good things they can engage with, with strict supervision and time control.
[5/21, 3:21 PM] Jansi Word Of: If we don’t teach them, the world would, obviously down the line
[5/21, 3:31 PM] Janani mcity: As a child I was glued to Tv whenever it's on. Even now when screen is on my eyes will be glued. I don't want my kids to be like me. Though I have strict screen times for them, they do pop in front of the tv. Lesser the better I feel.
1. I minimise taking mobile when they're home.
2. Tab, laptop - Password secured
3. TV Remote not reachable earlier (now in front but they ask if wanna watch)
4. Set time before turning on.
5. Less than 2 yr - NO gadgets- as it affects the brain/neural development not just eyes.
6. Better to avoid mobile/tab(very close to eyes)
[5/21, 4:36 PM] Sharon Preeti: No TV at home, but kids do have screen time. We have a desktop computer with a big screen, which doubles up as 'TV', of course, controlled content.

What I do? I am guilty of spending much time on phone. Trying to reduce usage. One thing I do is, I avoid phone from about 9 AM to 12, so I can have focussed time with the kids. I pick up phone calls, though, which I usually don't have many of.

For kids: they usually have 30 minutes of 'TV time' in the evenings after they clean up plus on some days, a few minutes here and there of some supervised content, usually educational or seeing photos, on the computer or phone screen. No unsupervised phone or tablet for kids. I know screen is not good for less than 2 years, but my 20 month also watches with his brothers, 😔 because it is very hard to engage him in something else when other kids are watching. He is drawn to thr screen.

How we manage? I think it harder to introduce and then stop. At one point, they were getting out of hand watching TV at grandparents place - they live right down the stairs. We had to lay down rules and also teach kids why we don't watch certain shows. It is easier to control time on the computer because we choose one episode and watch through it. So it's usually 30 mins.
[5/21, 4:39 PM] Sharon Preeti: And I think it is easier to manage when I am not glued to the phone 😁
[5/21, 4:42 PM] Beu Sam: In my house, the kids have chores and they earn their TV privilege to watch 2 episodes of wild Kratts which are about animals. When they lie, or not obeying, the first punishment will be no TV for a week... since my 4 yr is still in preschool, she gets to play some learning games in my phone for another hour... they both love to sing songs... me n my husband don't play anything other than Christian songs at home or in car/ van...  we watch couple of programs ( like amazing race, sea world) with the kids during weekends... otherwise, they will play in their room when the TV is on..
[5/21, 4:45 PM] Beu Sam: If we limit our TV time, it will be much easier to make them understand the TV time... so, when it is my TV time, they aren't suppose to watch if they don't want to loose their TV time😝
[5/21, 4:46 PM] Kani: I don't watch TV . And I don't mostly use phone in front of her.
We subscribed few channels but now we shut t down.
She uses phone while eating alone. Less than one hour screen per day s my rule.
Other than eating time no other time mobile to her.
I observed that when I dont use phone she doesn't bother much only wen I use it she cries for it. But others using is real challenge , she some how manages to get from my MIL. Dont know how to control it. I m praying that she starts  somehow to dislike it by herself.
[5/21, 4:51 PM] Kani: But I started disliking it recently. I believe wen I dont expose her for a prolonged period I mean for really looong period they ll dislike t. I stopped watching movies since 2007 till 2012, I mean zero movies or any entertainment in those 6 yrs by Gods supernatural grace. . I do watch now and then. . I do watch but that addiction is totally gone down to almost zero. So I m praying so.
[5/21, 4:52 PM] Kani: After 2012 now and then I m watching now. But I m out of t now.

Testimony on God's care

My son is turning 7 today...!

Yes... Today is my little boy's birthday 😊
Whenever I look at him, I used to blame myself and that past instance came to my mind which cause an impact on his development. When he was around 1.5 yrs old, his fever got shoot up to 104 and got seizers for few minutes. This was happened when he was in my lap and I was about to give him sponge bath. He got hospitalized, recovered and then for next 2 to 3 yes we were observed a delay in his socialize development. We ran to Chennai's no 1peadiatric psychiatrist, followed with number of therapies to make him normal.

But in all these ways which he travelled so far, we can sense and praise God's presence over him all the time.... For others eye he is a normal boy who is just shy of to communicate but as parents we know where he need support and encouragement. As worldly parents if we know our kids these much, how far our heavenly Father knows us and cares for us each and every second.... This is a great learning for us from our son's life so far.... He is a great blessing for us who unite me and husband under one roof(we were just met on       weekends for last 10 yrs due to job nature) and he is a perfect younger brother for my eldest son ( he used to tell this often).
My son is improving a lot by God's grace and God has perfectly set forth his way wherever he go (school environment/therapists/friends etc.,).
I completely trust on God for my son's future as He is the one who gave him in our hand to bring him for His glory 😊
Praise our heavenly Father with me and pray for our little boy 😊

Testimony of job, baby

This is my first testimony post.. Sorry, It is a lengthy one.. so thought of sending it part wise😃

Part 1 : Beginning of my Software testing journey

God is so great❤ He has perfect plans for us in his right time🙏

After my college, I got placement in Infosys. But, it ws recession that time, It took us around 1 year to join the mysore training. During that time, my parents tld me to try out some other jobs in Trivandrum. But frankly I wanted to go somewhere away from home for sometime.. 😁that ws my first hostel experience .. i met a frnd there Annie(She was in EC in my college) who is my closest frnd nw..

After the training, we all college mates got posted in Trivandrum.We were trained in Java dev, but I alone got project in manual testing. I was sad coz i always dreamt of coding from school days and all my frnds were in dev prjcts.

I was sad initially but again i fought for dev prjcts when i was in bench. Even dev managers were ready to take me..But infy policies nvr allows us to change units😊

Coz of my fight with testing tpd.. that day eve i was allocated to Nordstrom testing project. i felt it was unfair, but never thought it was Gods plan.

Initial days i struggled a lot with prjct coz i was the only person in offshore.Bt later Nordstrom became my family.. i had good relationship with managers there.. and later my cubicle mate became my manager.

I got married that time.. my husband was working in chennai near to shols.. I was sad about hearing other frnds story abt transfer.. that too everyone predicted.. transfer to shols is impossible..

But my manager genuinely helped me a lot to get me into shols.. that time another nord manager came to me and tld.. u can work from anywhere u want and my manager approved shols.. I couldn’t believe hw things happened.. just coz of this Nordstrom prjct, i was in shols..after my mariag leave, i directly joined there

Part 2: Life in Chennai

Finally i reached shols.. i had a very gud time there.. got very good frnds.. good projects.. home was nearby..

My husband was working in shifts..he is into logistics field..my hus had gud post bt ws earning less than me.. after sometime, we realized that it wnt b gud in future if we proceed like this..

We wanted move back to Trivandrum or kochi.. but my husband didn’t get any options.. so we decided to try somewhere abroad since he hav gud options there..

We decided to try for Australia coz my husband doesnt like cold places like Canada..we consulted one agency..since i was into IT, i had to be primary applicant., i was scared about Ielts.. i had to get 8 fr all bands🥴

Wrote 1 time.. got failed... from somewhere I found an online tutor.. she was an angel fr me😇 i dnt even know hw i managed work,cooking, his shifts, online Ielts coaching.. God gave me the strength in those difficult times..i was stressed and tired.. i wrote 2nd time.. result was 8.5 8.5 7 6.5.. i was shattered, i was expecting atleast 7 fr all bands.. i was very sure i will gt 7 for speaking.. I thought of giving it fr revaluation.. it will again cost u 6k or sumthng.. it wl refund if u get changed score.. even my tutor tld very less chance to get raise in speaking.. i prayed and gave it for revaluation.. and i got 7 in speaking😃.. God is so wonderful🙏

With 7 in all bands, i somehw get into Australia pool.. but it was just entry score.. agents started calling me to write ielts again for 8 band which i knw ws impossible for me.. ielts was a nightmare fr me and i prayed and cried to God that i dnt want to write it again

Australia Application will expire in 2 yrs and nothing happened in those 1.5 yrs.. i waited for the invitation, but never got..

We always thought we will change the job/ move back to home/ go abroad and think about the  kid.. But our priests wife and an elderly woman in our chennai church influenced us a lot.. Soon we thought of planning for a kid.. i just forgt abt Australia and dreamt about the kid..May b God is telling us this is the right time for kid..Still we didnt know wat we should do in future..Coz we were sure that my parents(my mother is having health issues)/his parents (they were at sis in laws place)wnt b able to look aftr my kid

At that time my prjcts got over in shols, i was called to mcity and my husband s office also shifted to ambattur at the same time.. we done the shifting to new house in tambaram, cleaning up everything and i was very weak..  within few days We came to know that I am pregnant🥰

Part 3 : My pregnancy

I had vomiting till my 6 th month.. i had pro with red chilli, curd, all kind of smells..luckily my hus was getting morning shifts most of that time.. he used to do cooking and takcare of me .. and my frnds in mcity they supported me very well throughout my pregnancy..
Also my spm and teammate were very so caring.. I was surprised to see how God surrounded me with such caring ppl..🥰

Travelling to mcity was my main concern.. then to my surprise.. my mother (God gave her strength) and in laws (although i dnt hav any issues with them.. i never thght they wl cum) came  in between and looked after me for some days..

As soon as my mother left.. my bloodtest result came.. doc called my husband said that it is showing downsyndrome

I was shattered..since v didnt had any family history.. doc tld nothing to worry but to confirm i hav to do amniocentesis.. she diagonised it very late and we had only 1 week time to do it..in kerala no1 is aware abt these things..I was scared and i read abt amniocentesis.. got evn more scared seeing the small chances of abortion.. bt i ws not able to handle the situation.. was gettng depressed..

Many ppl prayed for me.. my pm s were very supportive.. they asked me to take leave for sometime.. finally i decided to go fr it.. coz i was unable to handle the situation.. we wnt there and had amnio.. i took rest of 10 days..

Those 10 days were worse days of my life😔 finally i gt the result and everything was normal.. Thank God for his miracle❤

Then i joined back office.. at that time my friend Annie called me.. (She gt married and moved to Canada wit her husband)she enquired abt Australia.. i tld her that my application is about to expire and also ielts wl expire in some months..

She tld me y cant u try for canada.. i am also here.. u wl get it easily with ur score..i spoke with my husband, but he was not ready to go with agency.. we already lost much money for Australia.. he just tld me if u can do by urself .. do it

Dnt knw y.. I was hearing some inner voice.. u can do it.. I decided to apply myself for Canada Pr

Part 4: My delivery

I prayed .. God was giving me strength.. i checked different forums,fb sites.. started collecting details.. 7th mnth I was feeling very tired.. finally i decided go home for leave.. my pm approved my 2 months lop.. i wnt home to relax and have my mothers good food❤

Consulted doc there and i was diagonised with gestational diabetes 🙆‍♀ i was under diet after that.. missed my fav dishes..Thank God 🙏.. but it was controlled with tablets and diet.. i never took insulin..

But that didn’t stopped my journey to Canada.. i knew my ielts wl expire soon and i dnt want to write it again..i applied for transcripts during my last months..i was wandering in my university in my big 8 month belly.. and everybody was very supportive

I was getting tired day by day.. i was feeling like my baby wil come out anytime.. so i didnt do any work or walking or exercising.. my mother used to scold me.. my father was abroad that time.. my brother he was in college.. my uncles were also abroad.. so i was scared what will i do if nobody is there at that time

But Gods plan was great.. it was during my 8 mnth.. my water broke at 5 am in the morning.. i knew my brother wl b at home at that time.. we never expected 1 mnth befre.. but we were ready with the bags

I was admitted in labour room since it was 1 mnth before.. they gave me injection for lungs maturity and doc were hoping to giv another dose of injection next day mrng.. then plan fr the delivery

I was all alone in that labor room .. bed right infrnt of the wall clock.. they didnt allow anybody inside,. Just got 5 min time with hus and mom..

I was scared.. water was leaking the whole night.. baby was continuous kicking the machine they kept in my stomach for montoring heartbeat.. and i was not allowed to step out of the bed.. even they brought the toilet seat near to my bed..That was the longest night i ever had in my life..

Thinking about my kid.. counting each seconds..i was getting slight pain in between.. somehow it became mrng and they gave the injection successfully
But aftr sometime.. pain started and everything happened soon.. Thank God for the normal delivery ❤ My daughter is safe and healthy

But since it was premature she was directly taken to nicu..I was tired and stitch was paining a lot..
My milk supply was not started.. i was visiting my child in nicu and I couldn’t feed her.. she was on formula feed..

Finally after 1 week .. i got my kid to room..but she was having loose motion, heavy diaper rash and my milk supply was not ready
I kept on feeding her whole night and she was crying the whole time..Doc strictly instructed no vistiors for 1 mnth.. We took her home situation didn’t change.. she was on formula feed..

I was getting postpartum depression.. thanks to my frnds and breastfeeding support fb group who helped me overcome the situation..i was confident..i never doubted my supply and stopped formula feed.. finally everything was back to normal.. she gained weight

Finally we applied for Canada Pr. We were in the pool nw

Part 5: My journey to Canada

My mother looked aftr my daughter for 3 mnths.. God gave her the strength.. meantime my sis in law gt pregnant and in laws wnt there..i was still confused who will come with me to Chennai..my mother suggested for maid bt in law was against it.. my mother was nt well and in law has to takcare of sis in law..
At some point I thought i had to resign..

But Gods plan was something else..my in laws came with us.. they stayed with us till my sis in laws 8 month..

Months passed by.. as soon as i applied for PR.. scores started shooting up and i never gt the draw.. but during my ml.. my hus got a role change to Analyst..so aftr almst 1 yr, he applied as primary applicant..since he had mba v gt the draw soon.. days before my ielts score expiry v gt the draw.. Gods miracle❤ we hav done all documentations and submitted our application withn 1 mnth.. now it was time to wait.. dnt knw hw much time it wl tak.. whether it gets rejected

Aftr in laws left.. i took 2 weeks work from home.. i gt a lovely maid to suprt me that time.. my father resigned his abroad job and came home that time.. so my parents were able to come fr sometime to chennai to help me.. they were only able to stay for 2mths coz my father was searching fr job in Trivandrum ..

We got canada visa within 2 mnths.. i got promotion and asked fr onsite.. bt there was no luck .. and visa will expire in 6 months.. we had to land early as soon as possible..i wanted to land in toronto coz my frnd is there.. but hus had more openings in Vancouver, but it was very expensive.. so v decided fr Toronto and booked tickets

I was going to resign and my hr insisted me to take leave and go to Trivandrum for travel arrangements.. she tld u resign later if nothing works out.. i dnt even know y she supported me like that🥰 i wnt to Trivandrum ..

Everybody was concerned how we are going to manage with the kid without job.. we were praying to God to show us a path

and finally i gt prjct just few days before travel date.. that too for my infosys tool which i have wrked aftr my ml .. it ws Trivandrum based and i landed in toronto and moved to Vancouver for onsite prjct..

God has planned everything perfectly!🥰

Part 6 : My journey in Canada, last part of my testimony 😊

We reached Vancouver.. we dnt hav any frnds here..my hus ‘s second cousn.. whom he have met only may b 1 or 2 times when he was a kid welcomed us..arranged everything ..Wherever we go.. God will sent us angels to takcare of us😍

I started my work in client office.. it was a new client to infy..there were only 3 ppl from infy in client office.. and my client manager was an Indian lady..

To my shock, she was a bossy lady.. she made my life a hell.. it was my first onsite .. travel time was more.. aftr tht full time calls with infy offshores and managers.. tool was behaving weirdly and client was treating us like a slave..she had a double face and changing character

We came here during October.. it ws our first winter.. my kid was sick all the time.. it was first career break fr my husband.. he looked aftr the kid, food and everything.. i lost peace , time..

I didnt get leaves, work frm home.. infy ppl were not allowed to tak from home.. rest of the contractors and the permanent employees were at home most of the days.. during snow.. some days i had to sit alone at office

I started feeling bad.. i was not getting time for my family and i was just doing some manual testing.. not learning anything.. call starts from sunday..I couldn’t njoy any time

My seattle colleague was also facing the same issues , but she was on company visa.. so couldn’t do anything.. i know at one point the situation is going to be worse only until that lady is there in client side..

I was unable to explain the situation to friends and family.. Luckily my kid gt a daycare and she liked it very much.. Thank God🙏 normally it take months to get a daycare here

But my hus was not getting any job coz he doesnt hav canadian experience..not even a call.. he was getting down.. and i was unable to leave the job coz my hus was nt getting any.. and with this job i was unable to attend any other interviews..

Finally i took the decision to quit infy..this time i was strong.. that was the biggest decision i ever took in my life against my parents, hubby and all.. i knew it will happen if only it is Gods plan.. after 6 months of struggle, i quit infy

I knw it was Gods wish.. thats y it happened coz how many times i thght of leaving infy.. but it never hapened..I gt relieved from infy on a friday.. and my hus gt his job on the coming Monday .. initially fr 1 week he did a warehouse job and then luckily he gt job in his field and he is working there nw

Aftr quiting infy.. i felt relieved.. started spending time with my family.. started exploring canada.. started learning new testing tools.. i applied many jobs.. i was getting many calls.. attended many interviews.. but couldnt clear..

Still i was not feeling bad.. i knw God will show a way.. finally aftr 3 rounds and i gt selected in one company.. permanent ..near to my house.. etl testing.. I applied for functional testing bt i dnt knw how i gt etl testing .. God can do wonders 😃

And the surprising part is when i came to canada.. aftr 2 mnths i applied this company.. i felt this company will suit me.. but they rejected me.. nw aftr 8 mnths.. i aplied they called me.. due to this 6 months experience.. and with my 2 infy reference.. got this one.. with beter package.. i will start my new journey on June 10th.. and my journey continues😃

God plans are wonderful.. It will happen at his right time..🥰

Initially i lacked trust in God.. whenevr some situatn become worse ..i will complain to God.. but nw i hav complete trust on him.. watever happens it is according to Gods wish and it will best for us😃

Thanks to Beluah chechi, Ramya, Juliet, Joy to give me strength during my difficult times and scold me whenever i complain to God😁

Lost and found purse

A small testimony, I have lost my purse yesterday evening and realised only today morning when we were about to start to church. We decided after coming from church we will thoroughly search.

After returning searched a lot and      Came to a conclusion I had missed it yesterday. I prayed to God , if I get it back I will share testimony. But then decided not to test God like this.

My husband started scolding me and I was so upset 😭. The purse had lot of cards like my Aadhar , pan, driving license, debit card and all. At nearly 4 a electrician from our apartment came and asked did we miss a purse. It has been circulated in WhatsApp group and he let us know.

Finally I got the purse from the person who found it yesterday. I had dropped the purse near the church yesterday when I went for night prayer meeting. All praise to Jesus 🙏🏽

Gossiping at work

Good topic, from my side, I am a quiet person but I talk so much when I have an one to one conversation... if you want details from me, you can talk patiently and get everything out of my mouth... But, one day when in prayer, I was like totally crying because I've became a way for goasipping... I think like I am helping people sharing others burden but actually am false spreading... because everyone doesn't talk to you caring for other person... from that day I've stopped talking if it is not relevant.. It's ok if they think we are showing attitude.. for us Christ matters and no one

Also, one more thing wanted to share... i joined HCL and there were few others who joined with me... everytine I go for a break with them, a girl whom with o became close talks so.much...about stories from her house to office.... tqlkning and complaining... I use to hear and give a smile and support her talking with her.m but when I was reading about tongues in James, I actually started hating to be in that group...

1. It affects our time management in office ( we sit and gossip for long though I am not interested)
2. It affects my uniqueness (thougj I don't like I still be there just because they are friends)
3. It affects my   accountability (I come to office to work and log 8 hrs in my place but I sit and talk and log only 4 hrs in place)

4. I am affecting my deliverables on time

Overall I am losing my testimony

What i did was

1. I go for lunch.. never open my mouth if it is not relevant..  there are certain  times where we have to pitch in and show the love of Christ but at the same time we need not support such things

2. I make sure I sit for 8 hrs in my place

3. I don't talke a long break

4. When in place i make sure I focus in my work and not on the talks

5. And I never talk about others to anyone

Result was we have a tool which calculates how long I sit in my system ..... It was 8 hrs average and my manager called me once and told me like 'Carolon, I see you alone maintaining the hours and what is the reason..

My answer was simple...I told him I am accountable to God in what I do....

And He said immediayly.. Oh you are a Christian.. great...
Ya I have started practicing it
We have to be accountable for what we do and responsible for our activities
And that makes us unique

And make sure if we gather for prayer, I put extra effort before so I don't miss the fellowship
also I come to office now a days by 8.45 and leave by 6.30 and make sure I use my time efficiently
There are some impacts too... some use to say I am showing attitude and some tell me I am putting ice on my managers head for appraisal and some even said I am a robot and also had one comment from my friend - why do I ignore her...
Its ok... but we need to be .

It's so easy to get into the gossip mode even when we meet as believers.I ve been guilty of this too.

I ve had extended tea breaks n lunch breaks.

Yes Rosy.. sometimes it drains our energy too . We will never know that
I've been there and still there but with the help of God trying to come out of it

Teaching kids

Shared in mom's group.....

I felt urged to initiate a discussion here on how are we setting priority for our kids after listening to an inspiring speech.

Incident 1:
I once had a Sunday school parent tell me that her kid who is studying around 8th std has not come to church since she has exams on the next day?

Incident 2:
When I try to tell senior kids during Sunday class to allocate few minutes for personal prayer and Bible reading in the night or any time during the day, kids say no time! Lot of homework! Have other work! Etc etc.

Incident 3:
When I have talked to kids about importance of family prayer, I have had most of them saying that there is no family prayer in their houses or no family time together!

Incident 4:
When I have talked to senior kids about misuse of internet and stuff, I have had them say that they have their own mobile phones!

Incident 4:
When I was talking to senior kids about staying away from idols in their life, kids shared that they are not able to come out from usage of listening to pop or peppy songs, Instagram, rock music etc.etc.

I honestly agree that as a mother, I am and will be facing challenges in all the above areas and praying for God's guidance. But can we have an open discussion, heart to heart pouring our ideas so that we bring up kids who really rock for Christ ! This discussion is to only edify and equip us as parents to do the first and foremost ministry of raising up a holy generation!

1. How as parents can we set an example, show them practically, emphasize to our kids that serving Jesus is the first and foremost priority in their life come what may~

2. How as parents can we make them pray daily from young age ?

3. How as parents can we make them read bible daily from young age?

4. How as parents are we ensuring or allocating time for family prayer?

5. How as parents are we  spending family time to narrate stories/teach values/listen to kids? Are there any other idols which is stealing our time from spending time with family ? Facebook, Serials, WhatsApp, Instagram, calls etc.

6. How as parents can we have our kids stay away from evil addictions ? Of course consistent prayer for our Kids. But any practical rules to follow?

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Nice n serious thought Joyce... Almost every point u have listed has the same answer... Kids emulate us...so as parents we must be doing it first.
They should see us praying, reading word, applying word, giving importance to church n fellowship, giving generously, etc etc

No other way than meeting our God in throne room as Beu always exhort

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Sharing what I follow:
1.As spoon as my son wakes up, he has to brush, pray and then only I will give him glass of milk.. Mostly he will demand as soon as he wakes up, but it's a rule..
👆seeing my son pray, now 2.8yr Priscilla is kneeling and reciting along with him..
2.Some days ,the moment he wakes up, he switches on TV or demands mobile, I insist to pray and then watch..

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I will try to share what I am following, others please share as well.

1. Often iterate and reiterate on every occasion to my kids that God is the foremost priority come what may. Often narrate stories of how God carried me through the toughest times bcoz I put him first in my life. Prayer, reading bible, memorizing verses, respecting elders, not wasting food or money (difficult struggling area), being kind, etc. Living by God's principles is first and then comes studies/exams/games/toys etc. I have failed many a times as well but keep trying consciously.

2. Consciously taken effort for my elder kid 8 yrs now from small to do small prayers often

1. When he starts to  school
2. Before he starts his homework
3.before he starts playing keyboard
4. During night family prayer
5. When someone is sick in our family/prayer requests
6. When he hears an ambulance sound
7. Sometimes when I have pressure in work/ office needs etc.
8. When he wants a new toy/gift. Also he thanks when he gets a new one. Instantaneous short prayers on the spot.

So he immediately volunteers to pray quickly even if we forget in troubled times. You can try and see.

3. I had a thought that its very tough to make kids to read bible until I saw God do a miracle. He listens to our prayers.

A month before our hard disk with kids collections broke, so Chad's time boxed screen time was not possible. He had lot of free time and started reading Children's bible stories on his own. He had so much time that he read many times and found it interesting. Praise God. Now he started reading NKJV version every day one chapter from new testament on his own.

I thanked God for breaking the hard disk.

Usually he reads verses daily stuck on door before going to school. As Beu used to say, if you read a verse 100 times then it automatically gets stored in their memory. Psalms 139 after reading for 1 month, he started reciting easily. You can give a try.

4. I keep alarm to remind for family prayer. Otherwise I will keep on doing household work. For non working mommies, during kids holidays you can keep alarm at 10:30 am to spend time with kids, short prayers, make them read bible and memorize verses.

5&6: my hubby takes conscious effort to play with kids and talk to Chad daily during bed time about what happened in
school, his friends etc. while I am winding up the kitchen.

Strict no mobile to kids. If we watch anything, it is as a family together either me or my hubby will control the mobile/ laptop.

Watching TV/WhatsApp/Facebook  is not a problem as long as it is not stealing the time with our kids. If kids/hubby are around us, then spending time with them is priority. I sure have failed in many areas, but always keep trying consciously with His guidance.

6. To stay away from evil addictions, make your kids memorize verses more and more as the verse says: "I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you"

Peace and healing with hot water episode

Testimony
Last sunday i went to my neighbour home to stitch my dress. i informed my husband to take care of my younger son (1 1/2 yrs) since i made him to sleep in the bedroom and also told him to prepare rice for which i already placed the vessel in GasStove.

After 30 mins my neighbor called me and told that your elder son(3 1/2yrs) poured hot water on his body and your husband took him to hospital. i rushed to my home and tried calling my husband but he didnt attend..

At that time God reminded me the valuable lessons he taught me in the previous week. (i.e., to Praise God in all the circumstances, it may be Good or bad) I was wondering how can I praise God in this situation but God enabled me to praise him that the hot water did not fell on his face, Praise God that my husband was with him because he is a nurse he did all the first aid,etc.. after I got this revelation from HOLY SPIRIT my heart beat was normal and I rested in God's hand.. later my husband called me and told the entire story and the skin in chest area got pealed and my son came back home with very big Bandage but I want to Praise God that my son didn't cry that much and also was very active...

Also Praising God for the timely revelation...
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Fees paid on time!

I have a small testimony to share. We had to pay our son’s fees and we just had 10k more than what was required. The fees chalan was to be produced at the school the next day.

I tried paying that day night and to my dismay the transaction went thru the bank but stopped somewhere... the amount got debited, there was no transaction failure but on the school page the fees said it was not paid. Both of us didn’t have sufficient fund.

I didn’t get my salary that month because of LOP. I was thinking Lord what will I do, .....then I remembered that I was getting a message from my bank from 2 days that the FD that I had opened the previous year, amount that I required for the fees + 7k was maturing the next day. I thanked the Lord for His timely provision. Lord was so mindful that he prepared the funds a year ago😊

From uncertainty to absolute certainty

I want to share my testimony. Ours was a commitment arranged by parents. And I was rest assured it was God's will. However uncertainty rose up in my husband's heart after our engagement which gave a struggle filled courtship to us. All that I could tell him was to pray. Only with faith I entered into marriage. But reality strikes hard isn't it. Work turned out to be a very stressful situation making my health fluctuate and our family life was taking a toll.

Every day went with both of us persuading each other to move ahead accepting each other as we are. There were days I found it difficult to make my husband understand the plan of God and not rebel against him in anger wondering why he put us together.

I just held onto God like never before balancing it between work, family. Church and family were scared if I would lose hope that everywhere I went first thing I was asked is how is it going between you two, that constant observation on me to see if am really the right choice for my husband was mentally disturbing me a lot, all that I could do was give a smile and say God is in control.

A year and half in it I conceived, the pregnancy was even more difficult, but as I shared earlier God gave me the word fear not. Tear filled days made my husband realize what we were going through, how spiritual warfare is a part of a Christian life in a marriage and why we had to go through that phase and come back to the Lord. He just told no matter what you are my wife and from now on lets face life together.

Today looking back I can only say if I didnt hold onto God in faith, I would've definitely gone into great depression. I had my close fellowship friends who really uplifted me in times of pain even if they were busy, in prayers and constant motivation from his word. God gave the wisdom to love my husband inspite of the corrections and mistakes he found in me and strengthen both of us to draw close to Him! Today he runs to church and the work of God taking our son early saying he needs to grow in God's love! Only God can turn situations in no time like wondering, did we really suffer like that and smile in peace!!!

God's favor on Husband job

I want to share a testimony: my husband has been very unmotivated at his current work place. He has been working with positive attitude and working very hard but then he did not get recognized or see growth. There was one guy who was 3-4 levels higher than my hubby who recognized him and gave him some challenges and my husband is very grateful for that. Recently that guy left the company and even the little support he was getting went away. When hubby is not happy it spills over in the rest of the family but mostly I am the one who sees it. He still is very thoughtful when it comes to Nina. We have been praying for the right door to open for him.

Last week in church the message was to wait for the cloud to move and then take a step of faith. My husband was touched by the message. He came to know that the guy who left joined a competitor as ceo. My hubby congratulated him on LinkedIn and he immediately responded asking for a meeting. This morning he met him and he offered a job to my hubby. Nothing is final yet but I can see my husband’s spirit lifting and see him happy. I want to thank God for being mindful of us and caring for us in the present.

This was a revelation that I had in the past week that God did not only care for me in the past or in the future. He looks at me now. He cares for me in the present situation. I can walk with Him right now. He is listening right now and He will answer right now.

What He has done for my husband proves that as well.

Wisdom on fear from wisdom tooth

Recently I had to remove my wisdom tooth.. already I was scared to go alone for the minor surgery.. added to that when I entered the hospital in HCl under insurance claim..the reception guy said I had to pay extra amount , added some extra comments to increase my fear saying everything is very costly here etc. etc. and then vanished to some other doctor's room , meanwhile confused a nurse as well.. I was waiting patiently for more than 45 mins for someone to call me for the surgery.. at last lost my patience and walked and started questioning the doctor in his room ..may I know "what is happening?" He was like I also don't know..then he called few other people and settled the confusion that i need not pay extra amount... Now I was really confused should I take up the surgery or not amidst so much confusion.. but was holding onto God along with fear and questions....God knew my weakness .. suddenly doctor himself called me , then asked me sorry for making me wait..now I became little relaxed for his politeness..when I went in ... All set for surgery..I asked the doctor that it is very simple surgery right ..he said No and added that it may end up in complications etc etc...again I started shivering ...no choice but rather go ahead.. doctor was so kind ..he told don't fear that we will stop in-between as well and do another day if you want.. he started speaking so much kind words that I felt OK it's God's favour and totally surrendered still to Him ..and said go ahead..

The doctor removed the wisdom tooth in few seconds.. I was like ...is it really over..the most amazing part I was Very normal from that day night itself.. purely a miracle that I had zero pain and no swelling in my cheeks..All glory to God..felt like sharing for this topic on fear.. although I was a coward full of fear God still made me realize His Hand upon me when the situations were worse..

One more point , whomever I spoke to about wisdom tooth removal prior to my surgery , all shared very painful experiences which were scar to hear 🙃

I realized that "For with God nothing will be impossible". In recent months when I was thrown alone to handle the family .. I many a times felt like God teaching me again and again to come out of my inborn fear and often crying habit in fear which I am known for.. many days I had to (forced to) take decisions without fear ..no choice..no time to sit and cry..but that's how God wanted me to grow in Him I believe..I drove Scotty with my 2 kids on the roads...still God protected each drive..I had so much fear on driving also..but God taught me to totally depend on Him to move forward.. total surrender to Him helped me to run each day by His grace..

Although I don't deserve God's favour and miracles..the more I was helpless,  the more I started seeing God's favour in each and every move/ day to day activities in my life.. What an awesome God and a friend we serve...He is our helper in times of fear and loneliness...

Baby after 4 years. God's plan unfolding.

In 2014, we got married and came to the United States with a lot of questions and doubts and expectations! And as I did not work in US, I felt lonely and bored at home. Just after few weeks of marriage, one of our friends asked ‘When are you planning to have a baby’ and I just smiled and brushed away their question, but my husband told ‘At God’s time, and he is in control’. They thought that we were just giving a lame answer and we did not want to share what we were planning to them. But we actually surrendered it to God beforehand.

Anyhow this question made me more concerned especially because I had irregular periods, so I prayed the very next day for an answer from God, ‘Lord, what is Your plan for our lives’. By the end of that day I heard this from God ‘I’m planning your life’. I was thrilled and happy and great peace filled my heart, and I still could remember how happy I was that whole day and I told my husband that God is planning our life.
Days, months, years passed by, but nothing really changed, it was just the same and I did not become pregnant which made our hearts faint. Many a times I have questioned, ‘Is God really planning my life ??’. Though there was a strong promise from the Lord Jesus Christ, which encouraged me time and again, there were also days when we were so broken and discouraged. God invested this time to bring me closer to him everyday. Also God by His immense grace used that time to talk to me and reveal a lot of things. It was life changing and life transforming for me. I heard God’s voice clearly than any other time in my life. 2.5 years passed by after marriage, and one day I had a vision in which God said that my wait is over. I was very happy and was expecting a positive pregnancy test,  but God had a different plan. I had applied for a particular course to study and in which I got an admit within 2 days after this vision. I was not really focused on pursuing my masters, but God wanted me to take that route. Then God helped me to complete my masters successfully and get a job.
4 years passed by, my heart was weak. At this point of time it was very difficult to claim God’s promises and pray and we were getting tired. Again God spoke with His Word ‘Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own insight and understanding’. I was very weak to pray a long prayer but  kept reciting this verse again and again saying Lord I trust in you and I do not want to lean on my own understanding and nothing more than that. By the grace of God I was conceived that very same month without any treatment or problem and delivered a baby girl by the end of 2018. God’s words is active and alive always, even after 4 years of waiting he did what he planned for us and even now, He is working and even our future He is holding. We thank God for His faithfulness and grace and love towards our family, All praise and glory belongs to the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords.

Many friends who studied with me said that you have planned really well, you studied, then got a job, and then became pregnant! But it is actually God who  planned our life. Thank you Jesus !!!

Three things I realized during my waiting time:
• I was too busy(studies, work, worldly things) to seek God before marriage, even though I read bible so many times and prayed, I did not spent enough time meditating God’s word. But God graciously pulled me out of the business of this world and made me realize that He is God and helped me know him more. My husband was greatly helpful and encouraged me to seek God more in all ways
• I was too focussed in my job when I was working, and started putting my trust in my work. So God pulled me back from my work and made me trust in Him
• Now I realize after having a baby life becomes busy, if we had a baby immediately after marriage, I wouldn’t have had that beautiful time spent with Jesus meditating His word

God’s plan are always higher that our plans. God is never too early, never too late, but He is always on time! Jesus never fails!
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

Escalations to Appreciations

Testimony: God kept me high where people saw me as 'I am not fit to be in that role'

When I took over the job in HCL, it was challenging because I was not too technical that time and the role which I took was new to me and I was not able to manage the team and my name got famous for escalations. From client side whenever my name pops up, they though it would be an escalation about me.
And I was praying about it.

Then at the end of last year, there was a change in the system and we were arranged based on domain(functional domain in client side). Everyone got the applications except me. No one was ready to take me and people who wanted me was like they want me to act as a support member for a team. I was saying No to that team and we had the Christmas holidays. My friends started saying, 'Carol accept what you get. I said No, God will give me better.

So after new year, for the first few week, I didn't gt any applications. Then I got a call my manager saying, he have a role like which I am expecting, but, the thing is it is already coming up with so many challenges and there are already escalations. He asked me whether I can handle. My so called well wishers adviced me never to take those and break my head. But, I thought that's where God is taking me and accepted.

At the start of Feb, I took over the applications and I was treated like a person who doesn't know anything. But It's God's grace where He gave me some recognition with the new team in client side, who once commented, I am the silent and calm ITAO who he has see without getting tensed and able to talk with a smile even if there are escalation.
GOD helped me and without Him, I wouldn't have been survived in this as I get daily two escalation mails which recently He has started changing as appreciation mails from the client side as well as HCL side.

BY His grace, I got two appreciation mails recently from the managing director from the client side as well us I got a call from my manager now saying that I am a quick learner and communicating well. I was surprised because these two points were marked as negative for me in the previous applications and was escalated.

With God, nothing is impossible and He even make a donkey to talk and will raise a foolish person like me to survive among such conditions.
All Glory to God alone.